Choices
May 16, 2008 7:59pm
While I was reading the posts here, and listening to so many voices who have gone thru this, and those who are beginning this difficult journey, …
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NikiJo’s Profile
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About Me
I am a recently divorced mother of two boys. This was my second marriage. He bailed because I don't think he could handle being the "father figure" to my sons. I am a medical transcriptionist and I work from home. I am just starting my long journey on the path to recovery from this awful mess called divorce. I hope to find some peace of mind and comfort on DS, and hopefully I can give some in return.
Interests
I like to camp, swim, bike ride, skate, walk, be outdoors obviously. I love animals and traveling.
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Recent Activity
July 14
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NikiJo gave FaithLoveHope a Hug 8:39pm
Hey Karen.....I've been thinking about you too. I hope you're doing ok. I haven't been on here much,…
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NikiJo changed their mood to Excellent 8:14pm
July 10
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NikiJo and FaithLoveHope are now friends 9:54am
June 27
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Journal
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My Ex-husband's dating profile.......
April 30, 2008 8:52am
I am a scrawny, gray-haired, DWM, age 41, seeking woman of any age. Age does not matter as I have had women of ALL age …
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What was THAT all about?
April 28, 2008 2:25pm
Well after posting my crazy, long divorce saga on here not too long ago, I received a lot of wonderful support from you guys! Helped …
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He's a selfish bastard!
April 26, 2008 8:02pm
Well I just came to a realization....... Being new to DS and just recently posting my "drama" to everyone, I've also been …
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Sitting and stewing while he's out screwing!
April 25, 2008 7:36pm
Well I'm just sitting here stewing....... For anyone whose read my earlier post (it's very long) and knows what this man has put me and …
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Good Sunday Morning! ~~Karen~~
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Hi NikiJo! So very pleased to hear that you are doing so well. I am happy for you, that you have found someone who's company you enjoy and treats you like you deserve to be treated. I KNOW he's doing something right b-c I rarely see you around here anymore....LOL!!! BEST WISHES IN ALL YOU DO LADY. Love ya, ~~K~~
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I have started a new support group you might find supportive http://dailystrength.org/groups/he...
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Hey there lady, I see you also haven't been journaling but I see there has been a mention of a new fellow..(?) That was quick...be careful, take your time..!! How is/was the time with your kids being with there father been or has gone? I don't remember exactly when it was to happen, if it did already, I hope it all went well..!! Keep in touch, Tammy
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Close Breakups & Divorce
Well divorced just finalized April 14th. This was second marriage and was ABSOLUTELY certain it would be the last- he was married before too and said he would NEVER go through divorce again no matter what! Well.....so much for that. After 5 years of marriage, he tells me one day he isn't happy and wants out. I was devastated to say the least. I did everything possible for him to change his mind. Later I found out he's had OW for quite awhile. So, now here I am.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- Tried that once a few years ago. All he did was blame all of our problems on me and my kids (his stepsons) and after a few sessions we never went back.
- Forgiveness Too Soon to Tell
- I am not at the point to be able to forgive someone who lied, cheated, and betrayed our vows. He bailed on the marriage.....he gave up on us......not me.
- Leave Not Working
- He filed for divorce in October 2007. He's got issues that he's running from. He thinks by divorcing me that they'll just disappear, but he'll find out they'll still find him no matter who he is with.
- Music Too Soon to Tell
- Can't dare listen to anything much anymore without bawling because mostly everything reminds me of the jackass. I'll only listen to music if it's upbeat.
- Pets Working / Worked
- My dogs (outside of my kids) keep me going every day. I have an 11 year old beagle and 1 year old coonhound.
- Reading Working / Worked
- I read any self help stuff I can get my hands on to get me through this! This site is wonderful and I am so glad I found it!
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- If it weren't for my mother and sister, I don't think I'd still be standing. I just feel bad sometimes because I feel like I keep telling them the same things over and over......
- Support Groups Working / Worked
- This site is awesome. I love how you can get on here and vent and say whatever is on your mind and be totally honest. It helps me soooo much to see other people going through as much pain as I am. I know I am not alone.
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- I talk about my situation to just about anyone who will listen. I feel like if I keep talking about it, I will convince myself that I will survive and get through this misery.
- Time Too Soon to Tell
- Being just recently divorced, I am just beginning my journey down the road of "time heals".
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