serenity40days’s Profile

Close Breakups & Divorce

Last February, I discovered that my husband has been having an affair with a girl from his work. A 21yo! I kicked him out and when I was finally ready to reconcile, he wouldn't come back. We are now separated. We have been married for a little over a year but have been together for a total of 3 and a half years.

Treatments

Meditation Working / Worked

My biggest enemy is my own mind. All of those thoughts running around my head used to drive me insane. Meditation has helped me tremendously to quiet down the chatter.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

I have been going every 2 weeks. This really helps me understand what I'm feeling inside especially when I can't put things into words or if things are really fuzzy in my head. I suppose it helps me gain clarity about why I react the way I do to certain situations. It also helps to have a full hour of venting session so I don't start burning holes into my friends and family's ears :)

Reading Working / Worked

It's almost like watching movies. You get lost in a different world. It's a healthy distraction from the chaos of real life. And you learn new things, too.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

My friends and family give me much needed support especially when I feel lonely. They also helped me realize my true worth and that there is hope for finding love again.

Talking Working / Worked

(See psychotherapy). While it is good to talk to friends and family and get their loving feedback, sometimes I just need someone to set me straight like my therapist.

Time Working / Worked

I didn't believe it at first but time IS the great healer. I have found that it DOES get easier after each day that passes.

Writing Working / Worked

Talking it out is just not enough. Writing enables me to say everything without holding anything back. For me, doing this helps me release all of those thoughts and feelings that tend to hold me back from taking those steps forward. I have been writing an online blog and I found it to be very healing. It also made me realize how much I enjoy writing just for the sake of - writing!

Yoga Working / Worked

Yoga goes hand in hand with the meditation. Not only does it keep me fit, it integrates my mind, body, and spirit into a wholeness that I just can't describe. You just have to experience it for yourself. Really - give yoga a try.

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