dvmdoc's Journal

OK, so I fell off the face of the earth...at least I landed standing on my own two feet!!

So much to share....what a wild & whacky couple of months I've had.  Impossible to summarize but I'll try:

-Divorce: we had our first 4-way meeting (us, each lawyer) 2 weeks ago. Went pretty well. She was the only one who had to be 'calmed down' by her lawyer.  Give that girl enough rope and she'll hang herself...She's still representing some crazy things (ex. I have to buy all the kids cars when they're 17 with me paying 90% and her 10%...lol)...but thankfully her lawyer is talking some sense into her.

-Kiddos/Custody: kids have been staying over e.o.weekend (Fri-Sun night) and once during the week for the last 2 months or so.  Works out well. They are all doing so well and really exceeding my expectations.  I took them up to Canada (Ottawa) to be with my family for Canada Day this year on a 5-day trip and it was simply fantastic.  Will post a pix now from this trip!

-Personal life: My insecurities are waning for 2 reasons: I think a woman made a pass at me (!) the other night when I was out at a sports bar watching some of the NHL finals PLUS I've actually been DATING a great woman for a few weeks now! Imagine that!

-Work life: The economy is slow locally (nationwide really) and it's affecting things but we're not panicking....business goes in cycles and we've ridden out these time before and now is no exception.  I still love what I do with great passion and I'm more 'plugged-in' to my job and responsibilities since I've moved on emotionally reasonably well from the marriage/divorce.

-Sad times: Really only twice in the last few months.  Once when I came back from Canada after spending all that time with the kiddos and dropping them off at mom's house (marital residence), having to hug them all and see how excited they were to see mommy then merely pull out of the driveway and go 'home'.  Tough. Sad.  The old feelings of "it shouldn't be this way" and "I'm so sorry to my kids for making them have a life like this" come up and the tears start flowing.  The next time was only a few days ago at my oldest son's 7th bday.  Over at the house playing with all the kiddos and chatting with all the moms there (who are very nice to me btw) then again having to leave at the end of it all.  One of the things my mom said however which helped was having me reflect on the difference between how much fun I had with the kiddos up in Canada by myself vs. if my stbx was with me...big difference.

 I guess that's about it.  Would like to continue journalling here and post some pix and ultimately hit the forums as well.  Hope everyone's been on their best behavior in my absence...I'm really (NO REALLY!) going to try and chk in here more often now.  What a difference some time makes, right?? My posts from 11/06 seem like another man....