dvmdoc's Journal

OK, it's been a long stretch.  I'm passed the 1-yr mark on DS.  Haven't been on much in the last 6 months or more as I really feel as though this site is ideally suited for those in a certain 'phase' of recovery as it were and I've really gotten my life back on track & in order so that's cool...Divorced? Not yet (!) officially anyways....I moved out 2(!) years ago last month.  We're expecting a court date for an uncontested divorce in June sometime.  6/1/08 is when child support/alimony officially start.

The kiddos are all doing great both socially & intellectually.  My stbx is still as passive-aggressive as ever.  I know she'll take her bitterness to the grave.  I, however, have moved on and this divorce is 98% a business transaction at this point.  To all those folks in emotional pain an turmoil, I can tell you that the simple passage of time WILL make you feel better.  That's a fact.  It lets one separate emotion & actuality/reality.  You may not picture being able to ever do that (I certainly didn't) but you will.

I have a wonderful GF....yes, the 'other woman' is still very much a part of my life; she's now finally met the kiddos on several occasions (dinners, parks, museums, etc.) and they all like her.

Dunno who'll be reading this now or who's even left over from a year or more ago but I'm doin' well! :)
Best to all-

Warren (dvmdoc)

Wow...a journal entry...what's it been, 2+ months???

11/5/07 There was  final (marathon) mediation session where an agreement got pretty much hammered out.  Two days later she renegs on it.....sooooo frustrating.

My custody arrangement has been Sat-Tues e.o.week plus Monday of my off week (not overnight, just all day).  I miss them too much so given her desire to revisit our agreement I"m going to go for the full 50%.

I have a great girlfriend that is very understanding although the kiddos haven't met her as yet (not the right time to inflame the stbx).

Will likely be hanging a little closer here over the holidays...

BOok your therapy sessions now - they book up quick!! :)

Warren

YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Well, let's see if it looks the same on paper as we agreed to (!) in the mediator's office.

Yes, L&G, we (as in my stbx & I) AGREED to a co-parenting agreement (don't like the words 'custody' and 'visitation') in a 2hr session on Monday this week.

In the summer months I'll have them 3d a week (Sat/Sun/Mon or Sun/Mon/Tues) and during the school year EOWeek Sat 8am until Tues noon plus during the off week on Monday! 

This represents a significant hurdling block which has just been 'hurdled'!!

Four copies of this need to be made - one for each of us plus our attys - to make sure it's what we both want.  Then comes the financial stuff....which should be pretty straightforward (yeah, right..)

THX for all the encouraging words and well-wishes! I'm a happy camper!