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  Sunbeamo (05/26/08)
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  thor7506 (05/12/08)

  ((HUGS)) back!
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  thor7506 (05/09/08)

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  witch1 (04/16/08)

  random hugs. x
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  Jiminator (04/13/08)

  If I may, I am not a member of slightly cracked, but a good friend of mine, is and she has mentioned it several times, so I wheeled on over to check it out, and saw your post, and I have some words that may offer you some relief. I am 53 years old, a child seperate at birth from his only sibling, my twin brother, I have no children, have been alone for 95 percent of my life, and went thru a time when I suffered with being lonely, really truly suffered. Then I discovered, that there are two completely different things, to consider when it comes to being alone, being alone, is one thing, and being lonely is another. I might suggest, I know I am butting in here, that you take a look at yourself in the third person persona, and ask, Why am I lonely?, What is it that I feel I need fulfilled in order to not feel lonely, love, compassion, affection, reinforcement, someone to care for, someone to care for you, You find the answer to that question, and you can fix that feeling, I did, and now, though I am still alone. I am not lonely, in fact, I am not at all comfortable around people, but thoroughly enjoy conversing with others, and this web-site for example, helps me with that desire. I think now I prefer to be alone, after over 25 years, I must, because I do not engage in the dating ritual or the allowing people inside me thing. I look back over the length of my life and have found that the most miserable years of my life, were when I was envolved with another, of the opposite sex. I attract the wrong sort, so that being the case, I choose solitude, and self reliance and total self-dependance. Now that does not work for everyone, but for me, because of my childhood, and the early years of adulthood, it is the best thing for me. So, ask that question of yourself, what exactly is it you need that makes you feel lonely? and your lonliness will dissolve. GB Jim
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  Lilja (04/12/08)

  Hi and thanks! Yes, it is tricky, people often don't understand. BTW, I share your reasons for choosing celibacy (the first one at least!). Good to be among like-minded people. All the best.
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  roseblue (04/09/08)

  And somehow, it will, I believe. Thank you for your advice. That's good advice and I'll try this!