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Update on My Husband Mood

Wednesday, July 2, 2008 | A General Update story

Surprisingly he agreed to go to the VA for the physical today. His blood pressure was high,then was a little lower the second time around. When I described what had happened in the car almost two weeks ago, the dr said it could have been a mini stroke or maybe he's had mini strokes in the past and he wouldn't even know it. That would be the reason for the apparent short term memory loss.

He was put on 2 medications and told to take low dosage aspirin everyday because an EKG showed that he might have had a mild heart attack. I don't know how I'm handling this so well. My husband is so much the opposite of me. I would NEVER think of driving alone for 11 hours with these findings, but he's still planning to make the trip down south, probably Saturday. He has a follow up appt at the VA 2 weeks from Friday. The VA dr also referred him to have a CAT scan of the brain, see a neurologist and also a cardiologist. They even provide transportation which is such a relief to me because I could never do the drive. This way we just go to the VA which is about 10 minutes from our home and the van takes you and brings you back.

So yes he cooperated. After our miserable fight yesterday and each of us saying some very nasty things, I told him today that I'll always be there for him no matter what, but he has to take care of himself too. He's in much better spirits today and I don't feel much anxiety, just a little overwhelmed from all that I was taking in. I don't understand that. Yesterday I was so anxious for no apparent reason earlier in the day, even before the fight. Today I'm handling these things well.

I'm reading the book Worry Trap that I recommended to my friends and am also going to begin listening to my relaxation tapes that I haven't listened to in a very long time. They are from the Midwest Center for Anxiety and Depression and in the past I found them very helpful. I also want to continue to bike ride everyday (haven't today yet) and get to the pool and do the aerobics exercise in the mornings. I think if I do these things for myself I'll feel even better.

To my dear DS friends who have given me so much support over the last couple of weeks, thank you so very very much. I can't mention names but you know who you are. It means so much to me to have found you and I only hope that I have helped you in some small way too.

Let's stick together and we can be happy again!

Hug lanie...

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I'm here for you whenever you need a friend, your the best:)!!!!!

charliebones
Glad to hear he's finally agree to see the doctor and that the two of you are working through this. And you're doing a great job of staying strong! I'm proud of you.

Hugs,
Meg

hrsgirl74
Oh Im so glad he went to the doc...Im sure he is glad that you are sticking by him...I hope he goes to his other appts for his sake....Glad this are setteling down for you...take care..I'll writhe in my journal about how my doc went..hugs Dee

Deejs
I'm sorry about your husbands health issues, Well done to him for going and getting them looked at as he must of been very worried about going and what they might find, (I know I would of been) They will be able to get him sorted now and he'll feel much better for it. You've made up to thats great news, it's so upsetting when we fight with our loved ones and say things we wish we wouldn't of.
Well done to you for coping so well with it all too, you must gain strength from the fact that you are in control and copping so well. I think some times a build up to a fight with a loved one can make us more anxious than the actual fight, you can feel more relaxed after as you have gotten things of your chest, so to speak and your not bottling things up, it's a release, as long as it doesn't happen to often it's good for a relationship to have its rows. You're probably copping better with your husbands health issues too as you know what you are dealing with now and he's taking it seriously and is getting himself checked out, that has got to be a weight of your mind, the what ifs can be so much worse, if you know what I mean.
You keep strong girl, take care,oxoxox

indilou
Oh Elaine, I'm so glad your husband did go to the doctor yesterday. Thanks heavens, I know that's a big relief off your chest. I guess he was really very worried and maybe that's why he was so tense and uptight the other day. I know what it's like to have fights and say things we don't mean. I always feel so bad when that happens but I do think it happens to all of us. I'm so glad it's over now but I am sorry that he has to have more tests now. But at least you will be able to find out what you're dealing with and that is so much better than not knowing at all. (((((hugs)))))

DonnaFr
Oh Elaine, I'm so glad your husband did go to the doctor yesterday. Thanks heavens, I know that's a big relief off your chest. I guess he was really very worried and maybe that's why he was so tense and uptight the other day. I know what it's like to have fights and say things we don't mean. I always feel so bad when that happens but I do think it happens to all of us. I'm so glad it's over now but I am sorry that he has to have more tests now. But at least you will be able to find out what you're dealing with and that is so much better than not knowing at all. (((((hugs)))))

DonnaFr
It's just excellent that he went for the tests. I think you may be reacting to this situation differently than usual because you're handling it differently.. That's great. More in another msg.

Nicki504