TenderHeartdArtist’s Profile

Open Bisexuality

I am a bisexual engaged to a female, and i HATE it that people say i am now a lesbian when i am bisexual.

Open Abstinence & Celibacy

I am a virgin in real life, and proud to be one. I want to stay a virgin until i get married. Although my reasons are personal and health related and not religion related.

Open Coming Out

For the most part, in public, online and to my friends, I am out. I wear my engagement ring and talk about it with people at my college. But, I am not out to most of my family. The only one in my family who knows is my mom, who is good with it. The rest I still hide it from.

Open College Stress

Currently going to a community college hoping to move to a 4 year college that will be closer to my fiancee in 2-3 years.

Treatments

Talking Somewhat Helpful

At times it helps, other times it seems to make me more emotional/angry.

Music Working / Worked

Music is a big outlet for me, the mood of the music depends on my mood.

Art Working / Worked

As an Artist, art is a big help. Wether it is expressing something specific, or just getting out emotions.

Open Diets & Weight Maintenance

I know i am very much overweight, and need to lose at least 150 pounds.

Treatments

Eating Healthier Foods Too Soon to Tell

I am having troubles staying away from the bad for me foods. It is especially hard with me going to school, and the healthier foods are the more expensive ones, and i have troubles packing a lunch in the mornings and keeping it cold enough to each later in the day.

Eat Less Too Soon to Tell

I have troubles at time controlling how much I eat, and how often.

Physical Exercise Too Soon to Tell

I use to go walking in a neighborhood walking group, but that fell apart, and its hard for me to get my mom to take me with her to the rec center to walk on the track, currently trying to walk more while on college campus.

Open Obesity

I am morbidly obeise, and I know I NEED and WANT to lose weight, I do not want to be "skinny" but thinner and healthier. I am over 300 lbs and I am only around 5'0" tall.

Treatments

Swimming Considering

I love to swim and be in the pool, but currently I can not find a swimsuit that fits, and feel too embarrassed about going to a public pool in shorts and t-shirt.

Eating Healthier Foods Too Soon to Tell

I am having troubles staying away from the bad for me foods. It is especially hard with me going to school, and the healthier foods are the more expensive ones, and i have troubles packing a lunch in the mornings and keeping it cold enough to each later in the day.

Physical Exercise Too Soon to Tell

I use to go walking in a neighborhood walking group, but that fell apart, and its hard for me to get my mom to take me with her to the rec center to walk on the track, currently trying to walk more while on college campus.

Eat Less Too Soon to Tell

I have troubles at time controlling how much I eat, and how often.

Open Healthy Relationships

I am in a long-term, long-distance relationship with a female (MTF) who I have known for 4 years(been together over 1 year, engaged for just a few months) and originally met online but have met in real life and spent some, but not a lot of time with her in real life.

Open Lesbian Relationship Challenges

I am in a long-term, long-distance relationship with a female (MTF) who I have known for 4 years(been together over 1 year, engaged for just a few months) and originally met online but have met in real life and spent some, but not a lot of time with her in real life.

Open Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Relative

I have lost both of my grandpas (one who killed himself when i was still a baby, the other to rare stomach cancer/smoking issues), an aunt(cancer), and soon to lose an uncle (alcoholic issues) as well as a close online friend (breast cancer).

Treatments

Art Working / Worked

As an Artist, art is a big help. Wether it is expressing something specific, or just getting out emotions.

Crying Somewhat Helpful

I have always been one to cry easily, and it sometimes helps, other times doesn't.

Keeping Busy Not Working

Keeping busy only helps in the "think about it later" kind of sense.

Music Working / Worked

Music is a big outlet for me, the mood of the music depends on my mood.

Reading Somewhat Helpful

Reading helps in the "think about it later" kind of sense, It also helps in a "getting away" kind of sense.

Remembering Working / Worked

I was really close to my grandpa, and remembering has helped a lot, even thought some of the "memories" are more stories i have been told.

Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful

Talking Somewhat Helpful

At times it helps, other times it seems to make me more emotional/angry.

Time Working / Worked

Time has helped some

Open Stress Management

Between school, and my overbearing father and other things in life, theres a lot of stress and i wish i had more outlets to limit or better deal with my stress.

Treatments

Music Working / Worked

Open Female Sexual Issues

20, virgin, high sex drive, but unable to have the "O"

Open Restless Legs Syndrome

Not diagnosed, but according to a friend who has it, it most likely is RLS. Usually just around the knee area on one knee. Sometimes a certain position worsens or helps it.

Open Self-Injury

Use to cut, not your classic "cutter" most times i can control it, i only do it in one spot, and take care of it so it will heal quicker & less likely to scar & not get infected. Still cut every now and then...

Open Transgender

I'm not TG, but my Fiance is a MTF.

Open Phobia
Type: Fear Of Public Speaking

I have a fear, if not phobia then near phobia of driving (actually being the driver and not being the rider). Along with a new found of fear of public speaking (and somehow i want to be an art teacher for kids)

Open Short Stature

20, female, who is somewhere between 4'11" and 5'0". I seriously have measured myself both at different times. I also look younger than my age, which oddly growing my hair out has seem to help out with making me look more like my age, but not always. At times i wish i was "average height" but most the times I'm cool with it.

Open Vegetarians & Vegans

I am NOT a vegetarian or vegan, but my fiance is vegetarian borderline vegan. While I have no problem with it personally (as in i would never dream of trying to force her, or trick her into eating meat) I also want to respect her wishes, and learn how to cook for her tastes, but still satisfy my (& her other 3 roommates) likes which could mean either making hers or making mine separately (depending on whether I'm cooking for 2 or for 5).

Open Healthy Eating

I need an want to loose weight, including a life style change of eating healthier.

Open Sex / Pornography Addiction

20, female, virgin, high sex drive but inability to have the "O". My sexual relief is online play and online porn. My guilt is I'm in a long-distance relationship with a fiance with no sex drive, and i feel bad for my online play, although she says it is just a natural healthy thing. I feel otherwise. I feel, well like a online *****.