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RubyMcC (05/09/08)
Your mother is correct that journaling everything can be truly healing. This months "art project" for the group is actually a journal that will help you identify that various forms of abuse that you have endured. And NO you are not crazy. WE have all been there, and YOU are NOT alone. HUGS HUGS HUGS If you wish to see how I have utilized DS to journal everything feel free to read my January 5th journal, it organizes everything. (P.S. don't forget to post pictures of any evidence, that helped me when I reported it to the police)
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RubyMcC (05/09/08)
Have you spoken to a victims advocate about the abuse? All abuse starts with verbal and emotional abuse long before it ever becomes physical. An abuser will make sure that when they bruise you it is not visible, or you don't have any visible bruises to show. All we have left sometimes is the deep emotional scars that leave us feeling worthless, depressed, anxious, scared, terrified, hopeless, and that nobody could ever truly love us for who we are. It takes time to heal from abuse, and to realize that YOU are NOT worthless. YOU will not be lonely the rest of your life and that being alone does not have to be a bad thing. You can gain your inner strength and do things exactly how YOU want to do them without fear of reprisal. OH HUGS AND LOVE TO YOU!!
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RubyMcC (05/09/08)
Thank you for requesting to be my friend. It means a lot to me that you reach out and tell me that my group really does make a difference. I was reading through your journal and can see how your ex has some definite abuser traits. He is controlling through finances, emotionally, and physically. He harms the children and he verbally berates you and belittes you trying to make you feel absolutely worthless....well honey I have new for you. Guess what?! You ARE NOT crazy. You ARE a good mother, and YOU should be commended for moving forward, slowly but surely you will heal. You won't be the same person you were but you will be STRONGER. As one article I read said, "We don't realize how strong we realy, and don't realize what inner strength it takes to endure so much abuse". My friend, YOU are worth it. Try to stop communicating with him directly. Use your mother and other people to contact him so you can truly start to heal. Pat yourself on the back for getting out!! MY GOSH! YOU ARE FREE!!!!
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| Home Mom in 12 year marriage. Four Kids Later... Separated. Two years later... still separated. Confused... Have kids.. in new house he gave me... his name on everything. Gives me money every week... Have three business...all his name. Tons of Property... all in his name. All his CC are paid. All in my name... Charged off. I work part-time, in between taking care of all kids. Just afraid to make a move... take money away... take the car. Help..... | |
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| Music (Somewhat Helpful) I listen to upbeat music on sad days... helps to get mind off all the crap. | |
| Pets (Working / Worked) I raise puppies. I haven't really paid attention to them lately though. | |
| Psychotherapy (Working / Worked) Did a Self Growth Course. Been in it Three years. Learned to take responsibility. Learned I am a Worthy,Powerful, Intelligent Woman. Fear runs me often though. | |
| Reading (Working / Worked) | |
| Support from Friends & Family (Working / Worked) Create many friends from 2year self growth course program. I have one friend who listens, but compares her own divorce and declares I should be more grateful than starts what she is going through thats worse. | |
| Support Groups (Somewhat Helpful) Support looks like lists and lists of people I can call. Not all are going through divorce. | |
| Talking (Somewhat Helpful) Coaching calls for over two years. Call two to three people I can vent to daily. Sometimes don't feel they really get my fears. | |
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| Depression Clinical (Major) Depression |
| Codependency- leads to Depression. The more I give,try to fix,the more I become.. leading to self beat-up, result depression. I lived it for 5yrs.. until.. a true friend...introduced me to "The JOURNEY".. A Self growth course in Florida.. changed my life. Do I get depressed... YEAH! So how did it work for me? "I GET TO CHOOSE HOW LONG I WANT TO BE DEPRESSED AND I GET TO FEEL THE FEELINGS FOR HOWEVER LONG I CHOOSE TO FEEL THEM. I GET TO CONTROL THE DEPRESSION, IT DOESN'T GET TO CONTROL ME. | |
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| Positive Thinking (Working / Worked) I get to be sad whenever I need to. I just get to choose for how long. I tell friends and give them a time frame... usually goes away after declaring it, because telling someone takes away half the energy of
why I got depressed in the first place. | |
| Support from Friends & Family (Working / Worked) Joined a Self Growth Course- The Journey.
Created loving, honest, open friendships. People with no judgement...
People who will listen, really... listen.. and not try to fix it. Just allow me to tell all. | |
| Writing (Working / Worked) I JOURNAL DAILY. BUT I ASK MYSELF THESE THREE QUESTIONS:
HOW AM I RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT IS GOING ON?
HOW DID I CREATE IT?
WHAT DID I LEARN FROM WHAT HAPPENED?
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WHAT CAN I CHOOSE NEXT TIME? | |
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