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Good Grief: Shock Mood

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Shock. So in the grief group we started a 10 chapter book called Good Grief, by Granger Westberg. It discusses 10 Stages of Grief, though it points out they do not occur in order or neatly flow one into another. The first chapter, that we started with last night, was about shock. We all discussed that point when the loss first hits you, but doesn't quite hit you, because you just can't believe it. As I am the only woman there for a miscarriage loss, I tried to avoid being too graphic. But the shock occurs when you realize you're losing the pregnancy and there is nothing you can do about it. There was no panic, almost no feeling at all, just numb. But for me, I was already in shock that I was pregnant, since I was 41 and never had been. Shock is a protective factor. If we didn't have it, people would lose it and not be able to function. It helps us adjust... a little.

Jane

Grief Scale (1=least, 10=worst). Today=3

I'm sort of numb, wading through, but secretly hopeful.

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I could see shock as a survival instinct! I was shocked too when I found out I was finally pregnant. I'm STILL shocked to this day that God chose to tease me in a very icky way! But, like you, I'm finding my footing again, and trying to listen more to what God has prepared me for in the AFTER shock than to keep blaming him and asking why for the BEFORE shock!

Numb is always good. I feel that way a lot. It's a good survival plan for the overwhelmed. LOL!

htag
Interesting about shock. I think that fits for me still, even a month into this, since I keep finding out new and more frightening information as I go along.

nagasaki