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went to see the boyfriend today Mood

Saturday, July 5, 2008 | A Venting story

so, i went to see the boyfriend today! Jeez, where shall i start?? let's just say that i'm not sure how i should feel!?! when i mentioned the rules to him he said "you don't have to remind me everytime i talk to you". & when he asked if there was any beer left at home i said NO! BUT to top it off!!! he wanted to know if there would be some beer when he got home??? HELLO!!! when i told him NO again that he wasn't going to be drinking in the house & so on... he replied with... "it's only gonna be on the weekends!! WTF!!! also, he's got until dec. 2nd to get his anger management & alcohol assesment completed OR he'll being doing 75 days in the slammer!! I'm really thinking that i might have to boot his ass cuz, it sounds like he doen't want to quit drinking. THIS SUCKS!!!

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it sure does!

itsmylife
omg girl im so sorry your trip to see him didnt go so well...I cant believe he was asking about beer right AFTER you explained your rules to him...girl I hope you do whatever will be best for YOU and YOUR KIDS. Not no one else. All you can do is wait to see how things do go when he gets out, maybe he will shock you and change...ill keep my fingers crossed. btw there is this song you should hear, reminds me off the title you had on your status "just chillin trying to be a good single mom" anyways ill look for it and message it to ya. *hugs*

NotReady2BackDown
I am so sorry. It seems to me, that he does not think you are strong enough to lay down the law with him. I am gathering his thinking is that you need him and what he wants will go. I am hoping if you feel he is not a good influence on you or your children ... you will put him in his place. If he loves you he will respect you and your choices. If he is using you.. he will continue to drink and take advantage of you. This is just want I can pass on from experience. I agree with all the other comments. You have to do what is best for you. We are all here for you.

staceymonaco
i need all the support i can get!! i plan on sticking to my rules!! i know i'm strong & can do this BUT, i do need ALL the support i can get!! Thanks to ALL of you!!

SWeden04
I am really sorry that you have to go through this. It sounds like your boyfriend is really not living in reality. Somehow I think that something is really gonna have to change and if it isn't him...it might have to be you(meaning don't put up with crap and take care of yourself and your daughter). This situation will pass(even though it sucks)but you will be ok as long as you trust your gut! Women are tough just remember that! I hope things work out for you the way you want them too...but even if they don't we are all here for you!

miaandjakeysmama
Hey you. It sounds like he is in denial that he has a problem. You will need to stay your ground - so that he knows that you mean what you say. You need to make the best choices for you and your little girl right now and he needs to understand that he is not the #1 priority in your life - you and your daughter are. You need to stay strong and use tough love. Easier said than done. I know I have been there.

Gecko
He has a serious problem, and This problem can take its toll on you and your daughter. We will continue to support you as you stand your ground. Love ya.

skeet6768
He has a serious problem
I hope it does not bring you down- you are a mom and
care so mcuh

kellie58
Be strong girl, you got it in you. And you know what you have to do, you don't need any advice just support. I'm here if you need to vent.

reddutchgirl
STICK TO YOUR RULES! Think of your daughter, and of yourself too.

ataraxia