FroggyFriend's Journal

I have a stomach bug but mentally, am more calm.  The loneliness is dissipating, thanks to wonderful friends.  I keep seeing a theme here lately.  We are all coming from a place of pain and fear.  We are able to commiserate and advise because of that.  However, we all also have the same innate fear of "what if it happens again?"  Because of this, no matter how happy a place we are in with someone, we see someone else here that we compare ourselves too, whose relationship seems to be going wrong, or who is in pain, and we translate that to ourselves.  We bring up "what ifs" and begin looking for signs that things are wrong.  In so doing, we let our fears damage the happiness.  This is the learned behavior of divorce that we need to unlearn.  Live in and relish your happiness.  Don't compare yourself to others, you are unique.