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Yesterday

Saturday, July 19, 2008

Yesterday was a pretty emotional day for me, I was feeling excellent until the post arrived, I recognised the hand writing from my Step father immediatly, my daughter Kim was stood next to me and I told her the letter was from her Grandfather. I opened it and got the shock of my life.

There was no asking how I was but his letter said he had been approached by my ex fiancee Russ, the one who I had loved with all my heart and who hit me.

The letter said that he had asked for my phone number, or my address and asked how I was and that he needed me to get in touch with him urgently.

My dad didnt give out my details just forwarded Russ s mobile number. I text to find out what he wanted, he wanted to say sorry for all the things that had happened in the past. WAs a shock to say the least.

I was also in the dog house big time last night, I had to tell hubby that I had recieved the letter, I toyed with the idea of not saying anything because I knew hubby would hit the roof and my daughter would say a letter had come from Grandad.

I handed hubby the letter , yes he was mad !! mad as hell at me for texting, I could see his point but also I told him it was a catch 22 situation. If I lied about the letter and he found out he would be mad, if I showed him the letter he would also be mad. Its a no win situation.

Hubby has calmed down , I have no mobile at the moment , I have to get a new sim card for it. He was mad that Russ had my number.

Things are ok this morning , still feeling sad my mate has left, just stirred me up a bit, still feel very emotional

hugs jen

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My God what a shock! You don't need that voice from the past...bad news...my opinion.

Believe me, my dear friend, you cannot stay up in high spirits all the time, though that would be nice. You have done so well in accepting what is: super!

GarrettK
oh honey poor you what a shock ..i really admire you for telling your hubby the truth that took a lot of courage but it was the right thing to do .....but just let your ex stay in the past where he belongs
love you glitter hugs ....xxxxxxxxxx

ladyglitter
You know this ltr you got really upsets me. What was your fathers purpose in sending that to you. If he really cares about you he wouldn't have told you any of that. True love protects! Is he trying to break up your marriage? Sorry, I just have to say this because I think he should have told him to get lost. I think it was quite honerable of you to tell your husband everything. Don't let this make you have any "what ifs"

InHisStrength
awww jen when things are good, this kind of thing happens, dont beat yourself up my dear, you did what is roght, you phoned ur ex, to see what he said and you was honest with your husband, dont beat yourself up, stay strong, a good nioghts sleep and tomorrow is a new day! xxxlove ya jen

shaz191185
switch out your phone number. a guy who beat you up, whether you are married or not married should not have your phone number or address and its appalling that your stepfather didn't know to say that on his own. how old is he? do you have a restraining order against this ex of your's you may want to consider getting one. some people become obsessed

79pounds
Jen, I had the same thing happen once. I was in college and the fellow in high school that used to beat me up called my parents for my number. They gave it to him and he called out of the blue. It turned out he was turning over a new leaf and wanted to appologize. I think people get to a point in their life and they think of all the bad things they have done and need to make restitution. For them. It wrecks havoc on us though. You feel pulled back into the moment and the shame is right there at the surface. Now, I cussed him out and regreted it ever after. It would have been nice to be able to resolve this. Hear the apology and give forgiveness and then move on. I hope that is what happens here. I wish you the best hon! Many hugs to you! Robyn

HateTheFeeling
Well Jen i think that your strength and growth shined in your decision to tell your husband and how you brought up the fact that about the catch 22 of telling or not telling him.Good for you.
As for the abusive blast from the past (ex)I hope that he moves on now that he has said what he wanted to say.Protect yourself and Keep him in the past......hugs

jannis
part of AA is to applogize to the people you have hurt. It could be part of his healing process. And even though hubby was mad, you might have helped heal someone else. Think of this in terms of your recovery. If someone that you hurt you had to call and say you were sorry. or like this situation, someone called you. Its a gift jen. A gift. Thank God for the small miricales.

Amurphy01