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You know the old saying "For everything that goes wrong, something goes right". I never believed it...well maybe it did happen to some people, but it had never happened to me. Once things started going wrong, everything else went wrong, but I always thought "hell, it could be worse". Well all my hard work studying my course has paid off, I landed myself a position as a Personal Carer or Assistant in Nursing in an Aged Care facility. I have been working there for 2 weeks and I love it. The work is hard, the shifts are long, but just being able to make someone smile or to get a hug and a kiss from a dear old person is enough to make it all worthwhile. Some people are just so lonely....no-one visits, not even on special occassions, it just breaks your heart when you see them crying quietly in the corner because they just feel so alone. I am so grateful that I got the opportunity to work looking after such wonderful people, I gain so much knowledge from them. Things do go right sometimes, in more ways than one
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The kids and I went to the animal shelter on Saturday to donate the cat food that I had for Puss Puss. We decided that it was best to be given to a charity that has to deal with dumped animals. We thought, while we were there, to take a look at a kitten that they had, she was 12 weeks old and as cute as a button. SHe immediately ran over to us, meowing and rubbing, we took her out to an enclosure and played with her for an hour. The shelter assistant kept coming in and asking us if everything was okay, i guess because we were there for so long. That little kitten brought smiles to all our faces for the hour we spent with her and I think it is the kind of therapy that we all needed. I was able to walk out of there without her and not regret it, which made me realise that i am really not ready for another cat just yet. We decided that each week we would buy a "kitty" essential when we did our grocery shopping, eg: litter, a tray, a scratching post, toys. Once we have all that we need, then we will start looking around for a kitten, this will give us more time to heal and something to look forward to. Thank you to everyone for the support and kind words, it has helped more than u can imagine. BIG HUGS
Last night I had to make that horrible decision to put my 18 year old cat to sleep. I have had her longer than I have had my kids and they all grew up with her love and affection. She was deaf and blind and always stayed indoors. Last night she wandered out and was hit by a car, although none of us know how she got out. I raced her to the vet, but unfortunately she had internal injuries. The vet told me that even if he was to xray her that he couldnt operate on a cat so old as the chances of survival were very slim. I could not bear to see her squirming around and her breathing was rattley. It broke my heart to make that decision, but at the same time it hurt me too much to watch her suffer like that, she deserved some dignity. I cried and cried all night, i cried and cried all day. The house is empty without her and I couldnt bear to be at home today. People have been telling me to go and get a kitten and it will help with the grieving. I just cant go and do that right now....i would love to have a distraction like a new little kitten, but i feel like i need some time to grieve for my beautiful Puss Puss
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so very hard to deal with the loss of a beloved pet and dealing with a tragic loss such as yours is so much harder.
If you feel that it's not the right time to get a kitten then I wouldn't recommend it. The best thing that you can do for yourself right now is to let yourself grieve. Take time and grieve for as long as you need to grieve.
Maybe you can hold a memorial for your kitty if you feel like you want to.
Don't let anyone pressure you into getting a kitten. You will know when the time is right. There is no right or wrong time. Just follow what feels right. It will take some time to get over your beloved kitty.
You might want to read some books on pet loss, talk to understanding people, visit an online pet loss site or forum to interact with others who are also grieving. There are lots of things you can do to help yourself to get through this but the most important thing it to allow yourself to grieve and not supress it. Pet grief is not highly understood in our culture and we often feel that we can't be open about our losses because everyone doesn't understand and sometimes people might make cruel remarks.
Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sharon
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I forgot to add that I lost one of my cats to cancer back in February and I had a really hard time with it. We just got a new cat 2 weeks ago. We had another cat when Kirby died, so I think that's why we waited longer. If we hadn't had another cat, we might have gotten another cat sooner.
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Thank you for your comments, i agree that the grieving process has to run its time. We have decided to buy an item each week at shopping for our new kitten, like litter, a basket, a toy and once we have everything that we need for our new kitten it might be time to actually go and get one. I find this also helps with the grieving for my children as they are talking about a new kitten and how much fun it will be to play with. Kids bounce back after things like this...i think my grief will last a bit longer. BIG HUGS
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