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Friday, June 27, 2008 | A General Update story

I am done with my husband's family no more no more no more. My sister in law just told me to move on....

Move On............ Get over it.........

No more, No more.

This is the second time this week that some one told me they know how I feel. HA HAS HAHA HA HA HA HA

Yes, I am laughing and spitting red right now. I would hate to be that person who says that to me they will get the lashing of all times.

Move on>>>>>> what a freaking statement.

Well they cooked their goose I am done.

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I am sorry this was said to you and by someone who lost her brother who was your husband - sometimes I wonder if people have any sense or empathy - two things that are lost today.

Oh dear I could have written what you said too. I have also have put closure with my husband's family and the fire dept. There is no such thing as move on - yes, this is a journey but that is not the same as move on - for what happened is one journey ended and the next is full of many twists and turns with pot holes, and horrible storms. No, people don't understand unless they stand in our shoes. I can know similar things to you - but I still am not where you are.

Sending many comforting hugs - the Lord does know how you feel and what is happening to you - He will be there and comfort you.
Bonnie

SadBon
Don't know how to interpret things Eileen as it seemed as though you and your sister-in-law had such a good time together last weekend. Maybe you're over reacting and just need to take a step back before doing anything too hasty. The fact that your sister in law came up from Florida to me shows she cares otherwise why would she have bothered?

Eileen there are times when each of us feels some kind of rejection and we sometimes build things up in our minds more than we should. I know myself I'm trying to deal with the hurt that Carly had put upon her and I feel upset about those who should have been more considerate towards her.

Life isn't easy when the love of our life is not physically with us ...I pray that you'll be able to resolve the differences with your in laws as I'm sure they care about you more than you realise. Tell yourself not to overeact and give your sister in law a call ...I'm sure she probably didn't want to upset you. God Bless. Bryan

Bryan

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Eileen,
remember that I am here for you my friend.
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bettyb

bdsurov
Eileen, I am sorry that this happened, I also know that it must have hit a sore button with you because you have shared with us in the past that you were struggling with feelings that you should move on, so it seems that she said out loud what you have been saying to yourself quietly and it probably brought up all the fears and negative thinking that you have been trying to overcome. Of course, those of us on this journey find out that there is no such thing as moving on. Personally, I would not want to. I valued my relationship with my husband so much that it will always be the most important relationship in my life and I do not want to move on from that. Life goes on and we have to go along, but we are still in a period of mourning our loss of the most valuable gift that God gives us, our loving spouses. You have a strong faith, let God guide you in the direction that will be most beneficial to your soul and forgive those who are well meaning, but cannot understand our journey. Also, I think that sometimes we feel pressured to move by the people around us who have not experienced the depth of our loss and do not understand it. There will come a time when our life will take on a different meaning or course, but for now, we continue on this journey that takes time and patience. Remember that you are not alone. I will keep you in my prayers. Vivian

VivianM
I can't believe your sister-in-law could say that to you,I am so sorry, she apparently does not have a clue as to what you are going thru. Love and God bless,Jackie

Seniorlady
Hey my little sis. My heart aches with you over what my sister said to you. She is so hurtful and piercing with her words. The comparisons that she made were so ridiculous!!! I know it is not easy for you during this time but I in no way can imagine what it is like to loose a spouse. Even though my brother is not with us he will always be in our hearts no matter where life will leads. I am so thankful that my brother brought you into my life and that we are even closer now than ever. You and Matt will always make my life brighter. I love you and miss you!!!! Linda

mustangljr
Good comments on here. Also, people grieve in different ways. One it may be depression, one it may be anger, another tears, another - busy-i-ness..... Nothing right or wrong with any of them, just is and how one is dealing with it or knows how to deal with it. I know I have mixed feelings at different times with my dad's passing. Hugs and hang in there.

lddixon