Today has been REALLY GOOD. We …
Today has been REALLY GOOD. We met with our NEW MC counselor. A man this time. We had more than enough of the nazi …
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I find myself here again. Writing in the "public" journal. Not a bad feeling at all.
Today has been good. Considering we had a counseling session this morning. Is it just me or are some of these counselors out there who really enjoy the "details" of what happened.
Our MC keeps going over and over the affair details. Yes, everytime she does, more and more comes out. I get it. I got it. Enough already. I have accepted the fact that my husband had an affair. I accept that my husband had sex with another woman. I accept that NOTHING will ever change any of that. No amount of going over it, thinking about it or dwelling on it is needed. I HAVE ACCEPTED THAT.
Why is that we, as a couple, feel that we are ready to move beyond the affair, yet the counselor seems to REALLY enjoy getting more of the sordid details. I have all the details I need. I do not need MORE. I dont need to know how it felt, tasted, looked, smelled, warm or cold, wet or dry, hairy or shaven, these are way more details than I will ever need. My H is also tired of going over and over the details. The counselor just cant get enough. She must be a nazi bitch with a NEED to see, feel and tastes peoples pain.
We have talked to her to no avail, SHE feels we need EVERYTHING laid out. Laid out is one thing, but I do not need play by play, leg position, hand, finger or tongue location to move on. I have had enough mental images of my h and ow to last me a life time and then some. We have another session next week, it will more than likely be our LAST with this nazi bitch.
I dont mean that we havent learned a lot about ourselves and our marriage with this counselor, she just seems to be hung up on the affair. We are more than the affair. We will survive the affair. We will move beyond the affair. She just seems to be really into the details. Which is very creepy in itself.
We are thinking about using my h's individual counselor for MC as well. Not sure how that will work out, but we are both willing to try it.
So far time is still proving to be the best healer. We are still together and working hard to rebuild. We know that the marriage will NOT be same, nor will WE be the same, but hopefully BETTER and much STRONGER than we were. I am still filled with HOPE.....
Today has been good. Considering we had a counseling session this morning. Is it just me or are some of these counselors out there who really enjoy the "details" of what happened.
Our MC keeps going over and over the affair details. Yes, everytime she does, more and more comes out. I get it. I got it. Enough already. I have accepted the fact that my husband had an affair. I accept that my husband had sex with another woman. I accept that NOTHING will ever change any of that. No amount of going over it, thinking about it or dwelling on it is needed. I HAVE ACCEPTED THAT.
Why is that we, as a couple, feel that we are ready to move beyond the affair, yet the counselor seems to REALLY enjoy getting more of the sordid details. I have all the details I need. I do not need MORE. I dont need to know how it felt, tasted, looked, smelled, warm or cold, wet or dry, hairy or shaven, these are way more details than I will ever need. My H is also tired of going over and over the details. The counselor just cant get enough. She must be a nazi bitch with a NEED to see, feel and tastes peoples pain.
We have talked to her to no avail, SHE feels we need EVERYTHING laid out. Laid out is one thing, but I do not need play by play, leg position, hand, finger or tongue location to move on. I have had enough mental images of my h and ow to last me a life time and then some. We have another session next week, it will more than likely be our LAST with this nazi bitch.
I dont mean that we havent learned a lot about ourselves and our marriage with this counselor, she just seems to be hung up on the affair. We are more than the affair. We will survive the affair. We will move beyond the affair. She just seems to be really into the details. Which is very creepy in itself.
We are thinking about using my h's individual counselor for MC as well. Not sure how that will work out, but we are both willing to try it.
So far time is still proving to be the best healer. We are still together and working hard to rebuild. We know that the marriage will NOT be same, nor will WE be the same, but hopefully BETTER and much STRONGER than we were. I am still filled with HOPE.....
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Glad to hear of a couple who are willing to push past lifes struggles and hold onto their vows and their family! I am pulling for you and your family. It is so refreshing to see that you both want to make the effort to get past this. Sorry your therapist is such an ass though. That doesn't sound right, the way she is going about it. I mean you need techniques to get past this and to make sure it doesn't happen again. I can't even hear the otw name let alone her intimate moments with my ex. OMG. That sounds like torture, not therapy. I suppose the world is full of freaky people(therapists not excluded). Good luck my dear! You can do this, just remember your vows, your faith and love for one another and all will be well! God bless!
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my therapist( we are seeing individual ones) TOLD me "stop digging" YOU have had enough hurt...sometimes I still ask HIM, but believe her it hurts MORE!!!!!! GLAD you changed counselors although mine isn't convinced HE can change for real..................."it is what he does" she says and I keep hearing those words...............?.....
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