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Saturday, July 19, 2008 | A Rambling story

Pissed or Hurt-not sure which one describes me better tonite..

In previous entries I have requested prayers for my daughters friends mom that lost her child at 7 mos old, she and I have become friends over these last few months, she had another baby 2 wks ago and I have done nothing but offer my help with her older child-(I watched her for a few hours while mom took the baby to the dr last Friday)

Anyway she and her daughter called tonite wanting my oldest daughter to spend the nite with them tonite, and I agreed and they came and picked her up-her daughter(soon to be 12 yrs) is very whiny went into the backyard with my daughter, so my 2 1/2 yr old son Dalton follows-the little girl(Julia) begins shoving him against the corner gate, he yells STOP and she doesnt so he wads up his little fist and knocks her one...she comes running b/c she is always wanting him to be in trouble and whining that he has hit her. Before I had time to utter a word her mom says(and I quote) "Well Julia that is why i told you that when we come here, to stay with me in the front" and then quickly cuts her eyes at Dalton!!!!!!! Nothing said about a nearly 12 yr old spoiled rotten, ankle biting brat bullying a 2 yr old-GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

I then in turn(naturally) jump to the defense of my son-not saying that it was ok for him to hit but come on he wasnt the only one to FRIGGIN blame here!!

The mother obviously pissed and still cutting her eyes at my son decided it is time to go-(they had been at the house for @30 minutes and the newborn baby in the van the entire time) and she tells me that she will make sure that my daughter will take a shower b/c she looked nasty-OMG>>WTF???? I wasnt given enough notice before they showed up to have my daughter take a shower..its not like she doesnt take them but hell we had just gotten home when they called and within 20 minutes they were there..she had been outside all damn day..My daughter isnt the one that appears to have greasy, oily nasty hair 95% of the time!!

I am so beyond pissed right now that I just dont even know what i am gonna do!! I am also hurt b/c I have tried to help this BITCH anyway that I can and she in turn wants to make snide comments about my family-insinuating(sp<) that i dont take care of my kids which are fed 3 meals a day-many snacks, they shower nightly, and are given more attention than most children that I see around here!!

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wow I'd be pissed on many levels too!! Do you think that she vents about your kids b/c she feels like she can say / do anything and you'll still be her friend. This doesn't excuse it I'm just trying to figure it out. I'd talk to her you desrerve more respect!!

candymarie77
I am sorry you and your kids were treated that way. You definatly deserve more respect than that. Big hugs to you!

joyce19974
I wanted to add yet another thing! This Bitch has already drawn the last straw with me! My daghter came home today telling me that they were mean to her the entire nite and day and I am beyond pissed!
How can they act this way-the little BRAT is gonna stir up all kinds of crap b/c she doesnt like my son and apparently doesnt want her mother to have any friends!
I guess she just lost this one b/c I am so angry and knowing that I cant talk to her in a normal, calm tone right now so its just best that I leave it alone temporarily..Weirdos!!!!

krying
You always know that there is a problem when your kid comes home feeling down on herself saying "I couldnt do anything right mom, I feel like they hate me!"
and they wouldnt let her use a phone to call me!!!!!!!!

krying
Totally unacceptable! I don't blame you for feeling pissed.

Leosmommy
Awwwww..poor thing! I feel so bad for her, children are so sweet and innocent and don't deserve that. I am so sorry for what you and her are going through. You need to get out of this situation, you don't need this. BIG HUGS

joyce19974
Awwwww..poor thing! I feel so bad for her, children are so sweet and innocent and don't deserve that. I am so sorry for what you and her are going through. You need to get out of this situation, you don't need this. BIG HUGS

joyce19974
Awwwww..poor thing! I feel so bad for her, children are so sweet and innocent and don't deserve that. I am so sorry for what you and her are going through. You need to get out of this situation, you don't need this. BIG HUGS

joyce19974
oooooooooooooooh Hell no, yeah it's time to cut that one loose!

NickNicksmommykitkat
There is NO EXCUSE for not allowing any child to call their parents while staying away from home, and I would thing the only reason this would be done would be because she knows she did wrong!!
I agree with you it is time to cut all ties between you and the mother and keep your daughter away from them. I can't believe all of that.
Some people you can try and do everything for, and they don't appreciate any of it. Some people don't want the help, and those are the ones we can't waste our energy on. We have so little as it is....and yes, we are here to help as many people as we can, but only if they want it. I hope that makes sense.
Give your daughter a big hug....I feel so bad for her. She will learn who her real friends are it's something we all have to go through and it's never easy. But having a loving caring mother will help a lot!! Take care lots of hugs!
Candice

candiceS
Oh my gosh you have every right to be piss. I think the best things is to keep your distance and not interact with her again. She has obviously abused her friendship and does not know what it means to be a friend. I am sorry you and your famiy have to be subjected to this rudness. Take care. Big Hugs.

jazzan6
That's awful. Why do people have to be like that?

HeathD
ok i'd be livid, off the handle livid. you don't need people like that

Moosesmom
That's awful. I'm sorry your kids have to go through that. I'd be pissed too.

April1963
That is insane!! I can't believe that they would do that to her!! I would have handed her my fist but that is not lady-like I guess plus I am full of anger and hate lately :) I am so sorry that she had to go through that.

angelbabies
whooo get your dander up, while the newborn sat in the van wow great mom, and as far as her being in front they ccld be that way all the way to the door and then lev! love deby

DebyDavis
I would be pissed. More than pissed! Good thing you decided to cut you ties with this person, because it sounds to me like you would be getting yourself into an unhealthy relationship! Your poor daughter!! She needs love and acceptance, as do we all, not mistreatment. HUGS TO YOU ALL

wendy08527
Woowww. You and your kids do not need that type of frienship. I'll be mad too if I was in your shoes.

EliLove
I would be pissed to I would cut them totally lose

mo507