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Saw my mother in law today. The first time we have all been together since he left. I think I am doing ok and then all of a sudden I wish everything would go back to normal. Only I know that it won't and that already I have moved on as a person. Am having a bad time with my son who is 17. I think he is really struggling with all of this but will not open up to me. I don't know when to let him be and when to put my foot down and tell him hs treatment of me is unacceptable.
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Today I am really tired. I am back to not sleeping and having no interest in the house. I wish I could get the feeling back I had a couple of weeks ago. I am due to see my mother in law this weekend - she really misses the kids but she is also very supportive of my stbx which makes it very awkward for all of us. My youngest has yet to see her since he left. I know she misses them but we still haven't found common ground to talk about. She tells me about what is happening in his life - which I don't want to know. Her husband left after 40 years but she stills shares her life with him. He comes around for christmas etc and we used to have family dinners together. I cannot ever see me doing that and she doesn't understand my point of view. It is funny how something that is due to happen on Sunday has already clouded my week.
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Try not to dwell on it to much and deal with it when its time, no point in worrying about something that has not happened yet, hugs hope you feel better.
Well it is 5 months since my life was completely shattered. I know the divorce and separation rate is high - but never having experienced it before I can't believe how many people out there are living through hell. How do people cope. It is so hard keeping myself together for my children that sometimes I just feel like giving up. I have never had to deal with the home finances, insurance, keeping cars on the road - I never even took out the rubbish! Now I have to do everything - and keep strong for my family. I don't understand how the man I spent more than half of my life with could just leave without even trying to keep our marriage alive. How could I have been so blind and stupid to give myself to a man who could do that. I was looking forward to the time when the kids would be off our hands and we could enjoy life as a couple - now I have to face the future on my own. I never realised the world could be such a lonely place.
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Welcome to the site and sorry to meet you like this, my experience is similar to yours, I was also married for 22 year. My stbx (soon to be ex) left me last April. She decided that I would be better of with out her and that she was doing me a favour. I can't say it has been easy but it does get better, I have never lived alone and I have to say I don't really like it. Our nest was empty and I thought like you that we were going to have time to ourselves, time that we never had before. Lots more to the story. Once again I wish you had not been given the motivation to find this site but I think you will find that it can be very helpful.
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Thank you. It is so hard to find people to talk to. Most of the time when friends ask how I am I just say OK as I know they don't really understand what I am going through. It is so nice to find somewhere people really understand.
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Thank you. It is so hard to find people to talk to. Most of the time when friends ask how I am I just say OK as I know they don't really understand what I am going through. It is so nice to find somewhere people really understand.
This will not make you feel any better but you are at least the third person that has told me they are having a hard time with a teenage son. Must be something in the air.
Wick