svdbylove’s Profile

Open Infidelity

During the holidays of 06' our marriage took the lowest blow ever. We were in the midst of losing everything due to a failing business, and much other crisis. Instead of clinging to eachother in the worst of times, our depression caused very irrational thinking, and neither of us were using any logic, and became very, very angry. As payback to eachothers emotional abuse, and suffering, we both used the worst form of abuse upon another and cheated... we are rebuilding our beautiful marriage

Treatments

Couples Counseling Working / Worked

Counseling helps you work out your own issues, and as a couple it helps to clear up misunderstandings

Forgiveness Working / Worked

Working.. I forgave him, however find it extremely difficult to forgive myself... as I hold myself accountable for the near destruction of my family. I felt completely lost for about 3wks... Im so very ashamed... Upon reflection, I can hardly believe Im writing this about myself, or our beautiful marriage... We have always had something very special between us, and always conquered the worst of the worst.. I truely thought we were both stronger.

Reading Working / Worked

5 love languages by gary chapman excellent read.. excellent help

Open Depression
Type: Clinical (Major) Depression

I guess I have suffered w/ depression off & on my whole life. After the birth of some of my children I had postpartum depression. I noticed that when depression strikes, it during times of stress thats a bit more than I take, or times that I may feel that Im failing. Over the last 2 1/2 yrs I have learned alot about it, and how to for the most part manage it, and look for signs. I have experienced major depression, and I get a seasonal depression around christmas time, Love Christmas, so weird!

Treatments

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Working / Worked

My therapist helped me understand my life, and she truely saved my life, by providing me w/ information on how to manage my life, and stress

Lexapro Not Working

Didnt work for me really, i felt extreme tiredness, numb at times, and gained 45 lbs.

Meditation Considering

This & Yoga

Positive Thinking Working / Worked

Im always reading, and looking for postivity. Keeping my hope alive.. looking for the tinyest glimmer that everything will work out, and be okay.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Therapy has helped me to work out alot of confusion I had about difficult situations during my childhood, and how it effects me as an adult, and to accept, that it is, what it is, and it wasnt my fault.. and i learn how to manage my present

Reading Working / Worked

Love to read fictional non fictional and learn new stuff.

Seroquel Working / Worked

I used this occassionally when i felt really awful, and it would make me sleep, and get rest. Really strong, and made me real tired the following day.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

Sometimes.. have to be selective

Wellbutrin Working / Worked

Seems to be helping. Has side effects, like all others, sometimes I have really bad nightmares & headaches. Heart racing in the beginning.

Writing Working / Worked

Zoloft Not Working

Made me sick, but helped my H alot!

Open Depression Supporters

The last several years has been very stressful & we experienced many losses.. and its taken it toll on us both. So hard to see your dearest in soo much pain.

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

We cry & hold eachother & helps us both.

Music Working / Worked

Softer soothing music helps

Patience Working / Worked

All you can really do, is have patience & do what you can to make life a little easier for them, if w/in your power

Talking Working / Worked

Having compassion, understanding, and really listening seems to be very helpful.

Open Rape

Raped at age 15, by a neighbor age 37, he promised to bury me alive, once i told a trusted person, and then he was sent to prison, against my own feelings. Later my uncle decided it would be ok to be innappropriate, and i was able to get out of there, just in time. Age 18, I got myself pregnant by a very evil man, who was disgusting, and raped me many times, because I hated him, and also promised to bury me too..I've spent all these years being afraid of those promises.

Treatments

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Helping alot

Talking Working / Worked

dont ever like to talk about it

Open Healthy Relationships

I have a beautiful marriage that suffered a huge attack DEC 06' It means everything to me to keep it healthy.. and never see it die

Treatments

Couples Counseling Working / Worked

Patience Working / Worked

Talking Working / Worked

Communication is good.

Open Seasonal Affective Disorder

Recently diagnosed

Open Financial Challenges

Looking for ways i can work from home and avoid daycare expenses..

Open Parenting Big Kids (5-8)

Open Family Issues

Treatments

Family Therapy Working / Worked

Music Working / Worked

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Talking Working / Worked

Writing Working / Worked

Open Anger Management

Open Codependency

I am in a learning phase..

Open Diets & Weight Maintenance

Treatments

Eating Healthier Foods Working / Worked

Eat Less Working / Worked

Physical Exercise Working / Worked

South Beach Diet Somewhat Helpful