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Ivan called today. It was the nicest, most rational talk we have had in a long time. He made several calls, in a row. We discussed everything from my family, my job, my selling the house, him, a little about us, and alot.
I was all set to sell, now I just don't know what to do. He is making no big promises, but we are talking. I told him I sent a crabby letter today, and not to read it, I was just mad, but I know he will.
All my plans of selling are now in limbo, and I don't know what to do.He won't be home for a year. I may just sell, rent a place in Mn temporarily and come back in Aug 2009 to be near him. He has to go to a halfway house for awhile, then stay in the county. Because he ran for a year, they will not transfer his parole to MN. I know Wisconsin does make them stay in the county they were arrested in.
He wants me to rent a place in the county he has to be in. I know it may not work out, but I have to give it one more shot.
I hated when the last call hung up just as we were really communicating for the first time in so long. I was out of money on the account after that call. I did add more, but he didn't know that.
I can tell he has been taking those classes, and he is even taking a parenting class which is strange. He has a kid he hasn't seen in 15 years. Maybe it is to understand my relationship with my kids. He asked alot about them too. He is friendly with my son.
I need to be cautious, and not pressure him,but want him in my life.
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im glad to hear that communication is improving for you both, that's important to your well-being... take it easy and take it slowly..
tryin2smile
Wow, you read that fast. I know...babysteps. I can't push him. I just have no idea what to do about moving or anything now. I know we can't live here, there is no work, but now moving to MN does not seem a good idea for awhile. Family won't be happy, but it is my life.
nowheregirl
Im glad to hear you got to talk to him, I would just take it one dat at a time. Parenting classes? Sure I guess Its always good to learn, like you said for your son. Im glad things are going better for you. You deserve to be happy, no mater what you do! I hope your family will support you.
Brknhart
Oh god, when you said parenting classes, it got me thinking maybe while he was free he got someone pregnant. It is a miracle he don't have tons of kids. He does get around when drunk. Oh no, something new to think of. So tough when I can't call him, and who knows when he will call.
nowheregirl
i'm glad to hear you had a nice conversation with him...that's progress...one day at a time....think any and all decisions through--so that they benefit YOU, and YOUR well being.. sounds like he's making progress as well, and that's wonderful. just remember to take care of YOU first...
xxxx
gettingbackup
I have over a year for us to figure it out. It will be up and down. He don't know what to do about anything now. He is doing soul searching, and taking classes, and probably treatment and therapy. He was exceptionally nice the other day. Different. Like the old Ivan, I fell for.
nowheregirl