HeatherN08’s Profile

Close Neurofibromatosis

I have a very mild case of NF. I also didn't know about this community until today. Everyone on my dad's side of the family has it.

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Friend

I lost a very dear friend of mine to murder

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

It helps to get the emotions out.

Music Working / Worked

I go out to karaoke every Friday night and yes it helps to get my feelings out through music. I even wrote a song in his memory that I performed last year.

Remembering Working / Worked

I go to his grave every year twice a year. Once on the anniversary of his death and again 2 weeks later on his birthday. I did a very special commemoration in '07 for the 15 year anniversary. My friends and I placed 15 roses on his grave. We wrote down 15 things we remember or miss most about him, tied them to 15 balloon strings and released the balloons while playing a special CD of music about saying goodbye. I then sang the special song I wrote for him that night at karaoke.

Talking Working / Worked

It helps to be able to speak with other friends about him and share my anger about what happened.

Time Somewhat Helpful

While I've finally been able to "forgive" the man who did this, I still find it hard to get through the anniversary and his birthday without thinking of him. There are still songs that I can't listen to to this day without being reminded of him.