lillee33's Journal

As soon as Chance got home from school his fits began but for what reason I am not sure, however it was enough to the point that I had to restrain him until he calmed down, because he was being abusive to me....it took quite awhile for him to calm down.  However then our evening went ok for about 2 hours and then all of a sudden Chance got himself started again, with severe hyperness, and kept whipping "blankie" at his dad making him mad, to the point that dad told him if he did it again that he'd kick him in the chest and that it would not feel good.....Why can't he understand that is verbal abuse?  I don't know how many times I have told him not to talk to him like that, but obviously it goes in one ear and out the other.

I also said something to him about not saying things to Chance unless he actually intends to do them....regardless....example...he told Chance that he was taking all the doors off the hinges because of Chance slamming them when he is mad....he didn't do it, but Chance keeps asking when he was going to, cause he wants to help...it is very apparent that Chance has no care in the world that it is a "punishment", he doesn't care about that...he just wants to help remove the doors.....when I had said something to dad about the not saying something unless you mean it, I gave him the example, don't say "I'll call the police, unless you actually intend to call the police" but Dad just can't seem to grasp it....he makes threats to Chance all the time, and unfortunately they are verbal abuse ones like the kick you in the chest, I'll knock you off there, I'll kick you as hard as I can....and I just really don't know what to do.

The same night that I told dad not to say things unless he intends to do them,  he says, ok, but you remember you said that....I told him not a problem, but when he does kick him or whatever, I will be the first person to call the police because that is abuse....Dad usually just ignores me, as if he has no care what I have to say.

I am very thankful that Chance is in therapy and hope that he will open up more to his therapist very soon and let her know exactly what bothers him.  And all the things that I deal with are what is making me decide that I am just going to go ahead and get him started on medication as soon as I can and then work with behavioral modifications from there. Because I am at a loss as to what to do, and am more or less dealing with it alone and that is a lot of stress on me, especially while I am pregnant.