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Lisa956's Journal

divorce

Friday, March 28, 2008

He went and filed for divorce on Wednesday. The day before, he came over to the house (I had neglected to lock the door for some reason). He rang the bell and when I didn't answer, he just waltzed right in. I told him that I wasn't ready to talk then and that I would let him know when I was. I asked him to leave. He just kept walking back to the kitchen where I was. I told him to get out. I kept saying that over and over and I think he was a little shocked by it. He asked why I was so hostile! I couldn't believe it. I think he was totally befuddled by my anger! I literally shoved him out the door. As he was leaving he stated that he could file for divorce right then and then I would HAVE to respond to the things he wanted to talk about.

So I think that's what set him off. The next day at lunch he went and filed. He sent me an e-mail stating that over the course of the next couple days, I could expect someone to come to the door and serve me a summons for divorce proceedings. The entire e-mail was so cold, imperious, detached, objective, lawyerly, condescending, etc., etc. He stated in the e-mail that he understood my anger (how nice) and he urged me to set it aside my anger and realize at this point we're down to merely working out a financial deal, which really only comes down to numbers.

He looks at our 20 year relationship as now being merely a financial deal. I hate him.

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I'm in the same boat. As a matter of fact, I could have wrote word for word, "He looks at our 20 year relationship as now being merely a financial deal. I hate him."
But my problem is, no matter how bad I HATE him, I really love him & that makes me the maddest. It seems that I can't even get that right.
Good luck to you!

CJshootnbbq
When my ex moved out, I went away for a 3-day weekend and allowed him complete access to the house. Imagine my surprise when I came home to find him sitting on the couch in his underwear, watching TV, doing laundry! When I told him I would send a bill for the utilities he used during my absence, he had the nerve to accuse me of being bitchy about it. I now realize he was just using my anger as an excuse to blame me for the divorce he wanted.

tncindy
I think you can ask your atty., to insist on a mental evaluation

Kare1
I am separated after 29 years. He fell out oflove with me. I cannot get around this in my head. I am afraid of being alone

wisly03
I am so sorry that you are suffering. Would he be willing to hold off on the divorce long enough to get a psyche evaluation done? Hugs hon..I am here for you.

pixiedst
Sister don't hate. Heal. It is the best revenge.

skeet6768