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THE 10 COMMANDMENTS OF BIPOLAR DISORDER 1.Thou shalt not blame everything on chemical imbalance. 2.Thou shalt …
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TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Thou shalt NOT refer to our baby as "IT" or in any way imply that our child was not a real person.
Thou SHALT take the initiative to seek us out. We are grieving and often cannot make the effort.
Thou SHALT let us know that you care. If you don't know what to say, just tell us you love us and hurt with us. A simple "I'm sorry" is better than silence.
Thou shalt NOT avoid us. We feel so alone. Even though you may feel uncomfortable around us, we need your friendship.
Thou SHALT give us lots of hugs. A hug says more than words ever could.
Thou SHALT be patient with us. Grieving is hard work and takes time.
Thou shalt NOT assume that another child will ever be able to replace this baby.
Thou SHALT give us permission to grieve. Don't expect us to 'just get over it!'
Thou shalt NOT teel us that the death of our baby is 'all for the best'.
Thou shalt NOT tell us that it was better that we 'didn't have a chance to get attached'. We love our baby and would have given anything to have had just one day with him/her.
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"Right now, I am utterly tired of grief. I don't want to hurt, cry, feel empty, want to scream. I am sick of it. I can't get away from the always aching pit in my heart and soul. I search for understanding.
Thou shalt NOT refer to our baby as "IT" or in any way imply that our child was not a real person.
Thou SHALT take the initiative to seek us out. We are grieving and often cannot make the effort.
Thou SHALT let us know that you care. If you don't know what to say, just tell us you love us and hurt with us. A simple "I'm sorry" is better than silence.
Thou shalt NOT avoid us. We feel so alone. Even though you may feel uncomfortable around us, we need your friendship.
Thou SHALT give us lots of hugs. A hug says more than words ever could.
Thou SHALT be patient with us. Grieving is hard work and takes time.
Thou shalt NOT assume that another child will ever be able to replace this baby.
Thou SHALT give us permission to grieve. Don't expect us to 'just get over it!'
Thou shalt NOT teel us that the death of our baby is 'all for the best'.
Thou shalt NOT tell us that it was better that we 'didn't have a chance to get attached'. We love our baby and would have given anything to have had just one day with him/her.
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"Right now, I am utterly tired of grief. I don't want to hurt, cry, feel empty, want to scream. I am sick of it. I can't get away from the always aching pit in my heart and soul. I search for understanding.
..I do all I can in the memory of my child who is gone and the others who are like her. I try to move into life again. I smile, I laugh, but inside I ache, my soul literally burns inside my body. This ache in my heart grows worse and harsher each day. Some say it gets better...WHEN??? That is what I want to know - when in this life am I gonna feel any better. I learn to live like this. It has not eased or vanished...I just cope better! Inside me I desire my child, outside I act fine and dandy! I want to feel whole, confident, full, complete, happy - all the things that are so long gone that I can't ever remember them. Oh what I would give for the bliss of ignorance once more. I want to scream so loud that I can't talk
afterwards!"
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that's such an understatement. thanks for this. =] love and hugs, meg
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