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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHH! I want to scream! I feel so bad right now.
I miss my girlfriend like crazy and I was trying to set up a date with her for tonight. She said she's playing WoW. ...and before I could say anything else she says "I went out last night." But it was with her friend. I miss her so god damned much! The thought of seeing her this weekend is what has gotten me through the week. Then I ask her if she's doing anything tomorrow - with the intent of asking her to go bowling with me and some coworkers. She's going to someone's birthday party. That's fine, except she never invites me to anything and always gives me a hard time for never inviting her along when I go out. Thing about that is I forgot to invite her along ONE time, and suddenly to her it's ALL the time. I HAVE invited her along, but she said she didn't want to go. So because she thinks I never invite her along, she says that she stopped inviting me places because of that! She's stepping on me!!!!! And it hurts!
...and she's told me not to let her step on me, but
I had to stop there. The details are pointless. The thing is, I am not well. Physically I am at an extreme. I need her help. I am setting up insurance so I can afford a checkup and therapy visits but I NEED HER _HELP_. I need her to be sensitive to my problems and take some time to address her own.
My friends and family tell me I should leave her. She treats me poorly and is not treating her disorder in any fashion. *I don't know how much of her actions I should hold her accountable for.* Everyone tells me to leave her but it's easier said than done. Especially since I don't want to leave her at all. Not one bit. I love her so much. If our relationship was an investment, I have poured my life savings into it. And this week when things started turning for the better I sold the shirt off my back and put it in there too. I just want a RETURN.
A very hard concept for me is the thought of leaving someone that you want to be with. She says all she wants is for me to stand up to her. I should, and do when I have the wherewithal. But I think she needs to understand that to make it work she just needs to stop stepping on me. All she is doing is pushing me away. My parents think that she probably wants to break up but doesn't want to be the one to do it, so she is pushing to make me do it...
...All I want right now is for her to call and ask me out. My Dad recommended that I not call, text, or email her until SHE contacts ME. I know I should do that... it's a hard thing to stick to because I have a feeling that I won't hear from her for days. I think she takes my feelings too casually.
I don't know how else to vent without repeating myself. I feel terrible. I'm going to work out and maybe go watch a movie. Anything to keep myself from calling her or going over. I am going to try and see how long it takes her to show that she wants to spend time with me.
I miss my girlfriend like crazy and I was trying to set up a date with her for tonight. She said she's playing WoW. ...and before I could say anything else she says "I went out last night." But it was with her friend. I miss her so god damned much! The thought of seeing her this weekend is what has gotten me through the week. Then I ask her if she's doing anything tomorrow - with the intent of asking her to go bowling with me and some coworkers. She's going to someone's birthday party. That's fine, except she never invites me to anything and always gives me a hard time for never inviting her along when I go out. Thing about that is I forgot to invite her along ONE time, and suddenly to her it's ALL the time. I HAVE invited her along, but she said she didn't want to go. So because she thinks I never invite her along, she says that she stopped inviting me places because of that! She's stepping on me!!!!! And it hurts!
...and she's told me not to let her step on me, but
I had to stop there. The details are pointless. The thing is, I am not well. Physically I am at an extreme. I need her help. I am setting up insurance so I can afford a checkup and therapy visits but I NEED HER _HELP_. I need her to be sensitive to my problems and take some time to address her own.
My friends and family tell me I should leave her. She treats me poorly and is not treating her disorder in any fashion. *I don't know how much of her actions I should hold her accountable for.* Everyone tells me to leave her but it's easier said than done. Especially since I don't want to leave her at all. Not one bit. I love her so much. If our relationship was an investment, I have poured my life savings into it. And this week when things started turning for the better I sold the shirt off my back and put it in there too. I just want a RETURN.
A very hard concept for me is the thought of leaving someone that you want to be with. She says all she wants is for me to stand up to her. I should, and do when I have the wherewithal. But I think she needs to understand that to make it work she just needs to stop stepping on me. All she is doing is pushing me away. My parents think that she probably wants to break up but doesn't want to be the one to do it, so she is pushing to make me do it...
...All I want right now is for her to call and ask me out. My Dad recommended that I not call, text, or email her until SHE contacts ME. I know I should do that... it's a hard thing to stick to because I have a feeling that I won't hear from her for days. I think she takes my feelings too casually.
I don't know how else to vent without repeating myself. I feel terrible. I'm going to work out and maybe go watch a movie. Anything to keep myself from calling her or going over. I am going to try and see how long it takes her to show that she wants to spend time with me.
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You know your dad is right. Honestly you are putting so much effort into this relationship and she is not even showing any interest. I know even though my bf played that game he always made it a point to call me every night. Mainly because that is how we had a relationship but also because he care enough to do it. I know it will be hard but take your dad's advice and see how long it takes for her to call you back. If it's days, you may want to rethink this relationship, it is obviously taking a toll on you and you seem like an awesome person who deserves sooo much more than that.
Sammer35758
You know your parent are right. You know your friends and family are right.
If you're thinking about this as an investment, then YOU NEED TO CUT YOUR LOSSES. My friend was in a very similar situation, with very similar problems, and very similar reluctance to just leave her. So she strung him along for three years, and then up and left the country, not inviting him to come with her. From his stories, which were very much like yours, I told him she might be trying to force him to break up with her, to be the "bad guy". When she finally moved out and left a month later, we both knew I was right. Of course, after he went through the first shock, she then turned about and started calling him, telling him that she made a mistake, and she wants to be together (just like told him she would), but fortunately, he was strong and didn't give in.
Save yourself the heartache. Break up with her. Then sit down and think long and hard about why are you so attracted to someone who treats you so badly.
cb72
I know you love her so much, but I wish you could love yourself that much because then you could see how much you deserve to be loved. I'm sure you can feel that and that's why you're upset. I know you love her, but like you said, she needs to face her problems as well, and if she does not love herself, she can't really love anybody else. I am not going to tell you what you need to do, but I want to remind you that you deserve to be loved and you seem like such a loving person, I just know that there is someone somewhere who can love you just as much as you deserve.. which is infinately!! My sister has been with a guy for 8 years and he has some deep seeded emotional problems which he deals with through alcohol. My sister is constantly getting hurt and always waiting for him to change because, yes, he is a wonderful guy, but he is not capable of loving because he does not love himself. I can see this but all my sister can see is how much she loves him. I am proud of her strong heart but at the same time, I am tired of listening and watching the constant heartbreak while she's waiting for him to change. It is heartbreaking to watch them both but I can't say a thing but tell her she deserves to be loved. And so do you.
GracieLooWho