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Thursday, June 19, 2008 | A General Update story

There's always more...Okay, so my husband got fired from his job last week for an inappropriate relationship with one of his athletes. Since, he has told me that there was another athlete 2 years before, and there was also my SISTER! That was 4 years ago. He did not have sex with any of them. My sister totally ignored him after he said he was in love with her. He tells all the girls that he is in love with them. I think he has some love addiction. We are getting counseling. But at this point it's so hard not to think our whole life together has been a lie. I love our family, but I cannot allow him to do this to me and to us ever, ever again. Where do I go from here? I love him and he says he loves me. We want our family to work.

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He got involved with your sister? It sounds like he has a real problem with needing attention. If he loves you, he has to stop what he is doing. He is behaving very inappropriately and you don't have to put up with that. Do what your heart tells you. I know how hard it is when there are kids involved. But if he is really damaging you and your kids life, you need to put the happiness of your kids and yours first before your husband's. In order for you to take care of your kids, you need to be in a healthy state of mind and if you can't be in this healthy state of mind with him, then if I were you, I would leave.
My H has done mistakes as well as I and we both are trying to be a better person and are trying to keep each other happy. If your H is not willing to change, if I were you, I would separate from him.

sophy2
We are in counseling and we are both willing to change and have a healthy relationship. I just want to make sure I'm strong enough to walk away if he isn't able to get over this "love/attention addiction". I want to be a strong person and have a definite voice in our marriage. Thank you for your words. They give me strength.

KarleeM
You have to be strong and put your kids first.All he has done would be enough for me to leave.There are places out there that can help you out.For someone to get fired and not put his family first has some could of problem.Get out before it happens agains and for the sister thing that is so wrong of him.Counseling is good only if he is sorry and maybe it make take you leaving him for him to realize what he has done.

Mind4
I won't sit here and tell you to leave him. I think you should take a deep breath and tell yourself that it will get better. I'm so saddened that you are going thru this. You don't deserve it and I only hope he realizes that if he loses you HE's the loser. You're a wonderful person and I'm here to listen anytime. Do you have my email address? If it's not against this site's policy I will give it to you.

Breea