basteph1977's Journal

I write to me today as kind of a way to accept a situation. My best friend in the world is going up on some pretty serious legal charges. Long story short he is accused of molesting his daughter. I am having trouble trying to figure out if he is guilty or not. People in our little town are as divided as we are. Riley, matildia, roger, chuck, and doug all think he did it. Kim Mandy julia and I dont think he did and Stephen is nuetral as usual. He says hes like switzerland. There are alot more inside but they have yet to make their opinions known, if they have any> I dont know who to believe. His wife.......yes i said wife.......has deemed herself our mortal enemy as she thinks we took him away from her. Thats why I think hes innocent. She is just the kind of person who would coerce (sp) her daughter into lying to get revenge. Or is she?? We are so confused. What kind of mother could make her child lie to get revenge. On the flip side of the coin what kind of mother would let that happen to her child, if it indeed did happen. She came into to my job one night and accually said to me "if I cant have him then nobody can" no shit. What am I supposed to think. I found it SOOO hard to trust anyone let alone a man and then when i was just getting to the unconditional trust part this all came down. Do I stand by his side in our small community and pray he's innocent or do I walk away and hope he understand. If he is found innocent then I have betrayed him and lost my best friend, If he is found gulity then he has betrayed me and i still have lost my best friend. I guess either way i have still lost the trust and the wife has won. Ex-wife....whatever. It has been my experiance that children dont often lie about this sort of thing. I didn't and yet noone believed me. I dont want to not believe her because I know how that feels. But i dont want to believe her either.  What do I do???