SadNJ’s Profile

Open Breakups & Divorce

He and I were together for three yrs. Then we broke up, that left me with two children to raise alone. I'm so very angry, full of resentment. I'm unsure of how to left go! It's not healthy. I'm not sad about being alone, I'm in mourning over the lost of my relationship. Somewhere in the mix of the relationship, I lost sight of who I was and became someone else!

Treatments

Forgiveness Considering

But I'm WAY to angry right now. I know I need to let it go, but I can't. I'm trying though, one day at a time.

Leave Not Working

Everytime that I leave I always end up back with him. We are still living together now. Its sick.

Music Not Working

Every song either good or bad makes me think about him.

Support from Friends & Family Not Working

They are sick of hearing about our drama

Talking Not Working

Only makes me more angry, because he won't be a "real man" and participate in our family.

Open Diets & Weight Maintenance

Loved my body until I got pregnant with my son. I gained 87 pounds and I only lost 50. i have stretch marks from here to there now. Then I got pregnant with my daughter I gained 76 pounds. I have successfully lost 68 to date! I have a LONG way to go, but I'm chipping away slowly but surely. My body has been left in shambles though. LOTS of extra skin, that isn't snapping back the way that I hoped.

Treatments

Counting Calories Working / Worked

Curves Somewhat Helpful

My kid's dad bought me a years membership. I went for a while, but I gave up and stop going. Complete waste of money

Eat Less Working / Worked

I've lost over 60 pounds

LA Weight Loss Working / Worked

The program actually works. The problem is if you don't eat the correct foods you won't lose!

Physical Exercise Working / Worked

I have a two year old and a three month old, that's all the exercise I need!!!!

Open Parenting Toddlers (1-3)

My son was born in Oct 2005! He is stressful! Everything is no or y not. I'm having problems with correcting him. I hate to physically hit him but sometimes that's the only thing that he responds 2. It's tough. He REFUSES to potty train, LOL, he told me that he doesn't want 2 and he won't! He's a charmer, EVERYBODY falls for his smile and blinking eyes. STRONG-WILLED! I love him SO MUCH. He's a tough kid. He's very intelligent, sometimes catching me off guard with the things that he knows.

Treatments

Attachment Parenting Not Working

Since I stay at home, life is a little more stressful. Some of my "bad habits" are starting to rub off on him. Mainly the curse words. I can't stand it.

Patience Somewhat Helpful

Trying on a daily basis, he pushes on a daily basis.

Positive Reinforcement Working / Worked

He loves praise. When he does something that he wants to be praised for he brings it to my attention. I don't mind praising him either

Open Seasonal Affective Disorder

I've always suffered horribly during the winter months! I think it's because it gets dark so early in the day! I'm a sunshine girl.

Open Physical & Emotional Abuse

I am actually the aggressor in my relationship. I think that it is because I am so frustrated with dealing with him and his refusal to let me go! I've been physically trying to make him feel the way that he makes me feel emotionally! During our last arguement he put his hands on me, without just cause! And after all of the times that I abused him, he's never hit me and when he did I felt betrayed. And now I'm angry!

Treatments

Leave Not Working

We always end up back together! Either he's coming to my place or I'm at his until I moved back. It's sickening!

Talking Not Working

Always ends in a fight! Usually with me hitting him with some type of object!

Open Lactose Intolerance

My son is lactose. It became very pronouced around three months old. It got worse until diagnosed at 5 months. It's been rough, but it's getting better!

Treatments

Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Working / Worked

It's tough, because LOVES cheese, and everyday he chases the ice cream truck.

Lactaid Working / Worked

It allows him to have ceral (which he LOVES) in the morning and sometimes at night

Open Single Parenting

Like a fool, I ACTUALLY joined the parenthood ranks believing that I would have a partner for the duration! Umm... he had other plans unbeknown to me. How unfair huh? So now I'm a single mother of two wonderfully adorable children.