narnee’s Profile

Close Miscarriage

we have had 4 pregnancy losses. a missed miscarriage in 2003, an etopic pregnancy in 2004, a blighted ovum june of 2007 and another missed miscarriage in october of 2007. upon joining DS last year, i was still hoping for children. now, however, i am accepting childlessness, if this is what God has planned for me/us. it has been a slow and painful surrender. i'm trying to move beyond my lifelong dreams of motherhood and past the pain & grief.

Treatments

Acceptance Working / Worked

accepting what has happened (4 times at that) helps me not to dwell too much on things i can not control (the past), and helps me focus more on things i can work on, in hopes to make positive impact(s) in my future.

Art Working / Worked

as an artist, i find all forms of art to be a type of escape and release. regardless, it is always a good therapy for me.

D&C Working / Worked

i have had 4 D&Cs. all have gone well with typical quick recoveries.

Faith Working / Worked

my faith in Christ sustains me totally through my losses and my life. without Christ, i'm not sure how well i would be moving through these losses. my faith helps keep things in perspective.

Fish Oil Working / Worked

i just flat out feel better when i take fish oil!

Forgiveness Working / Worked

sometimes i place the blame for these losses, although the reasons for the loss have not been pinpointed. regardless of where i am throwing the blame - - be it on myself, on my husband or even on God, forgiveness is completely freeing. really lifts a weight and reduces the bitterness.

Helping Others Working / Worked

i find extending compassion toward other women who have experienced similar loss(es) comforts me. also, in general, knowing that help i am extending to someone makes their day better, it also helps me from getting too deep into sad thoughts of "myself" about my losses. this is a good and happy distraction and therapy.

Holistic Health Working / Worked

i totally believe this is the ultimate avenue of physical health, if possible. i wish there was more focus on this method of healing! this is one thing i am active on regarding research and "self help".

Keeping Busy Working / Worked

i find if i stay busy that i am less likely to let myself fall into "too much" thoughts of loss. although, sometimes i feel i get "too busy" when i should be spending more time working through my feelings of loss.

Laughter Working / Worked

laughing always feels great! i don't laugh as much as i used to. but i did have a big laugh yesterday and enjoyed every second of it!

Music Working / Worked

Christian music speaks to my soul, comforts and is healing. music that is like a prayer is a nice release of feelings i'm not sure how to get out. praise music helps keep my focus where it should be.

Pets Working / Worked

we have 2 cats (cornish rex) and 2 dogs (mixed breeds = rescues). they meet us with unconditional love and have such unique little personalities. they are a true therapy to both me and my husband. they are work, but a true blessing to us. they bring many smiles!

Physical Exercise Working / Worked

although at times i am tempted to try meds for times of depression, i find that adding consistent exercise is very beneficial for me. also cutting back on sugars and simple carbs helps along with the exercise in improving my mood.

Prayer Working / Worked

Christ is my strength and my hope.

Self-help Working / Worked

each of us are ultimately responsible for our progress and healing. i want to do my best and seek out ways to do this. the key is finding what is best and works for each of us personally!

Sleep Working / Worked

i find in order to feel my best and be able to work through my losses, having good quality sleep is KEY! it is my favorite "escape". when i get a good nights sleep, i am always grateful. it is a true blessing, and one i do not take for granted!

Support Groups Working / Worked

i learned this initially by writing specific pregnancy loss board in 06/07. i found, that although most of the women on that board had children, that they had experienced at least one loss. there is a deeper level of comfort (at least for me) to receive encouragement, compassion and words from women who have experienced the same type(s) of loss.

Walking Working / Worked

getting outside, walking the dogs, getting fresh air is wonderful. i don't do this as much as i should. i would like to be more active with this form of therapy.