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OSCAR

Wednesday, July 2, 2008 | A Painful story

Last night I had to rush Oscar to the animal hospital. The Dr. there said that it looks like he has a brain tumor. There is a tiny chance it may only be a liver infection (Build up of uric acid can cause similar symptoms..) but she doubts that it is. She is almost certain it is a tumor. I spent most of last night crying, and now have a huge headache. I doubt I will be on much over the next few days.. We have to make a very critical decision about Oscar...

My brother screamed at me when I told him, and became very angry and almost attacked me.. I think I will indeed have to consider moving. His temper is terrible, and with my past issues of abuse, I can't deal with the fear that I feel when he gets like this.. I only hope I can find somewhere that I can afford.. I don't care where I move to.. As far as I am concerned.. the farther the better...

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I am so sorry honey.. I hope that things just get better and he apologizes.. Men can be so rude sometimes..

meandthebeast
You just got a new job, start saving your wages and looking for how much flats etc would cost.
That way even if you can't move right away you can see it getting closer and its a start.
**monkey hugs**
Here for you if you want to talk hunni
Will keep hoping that its a liver infection with oscar
xxxxx

ScaredandScarred
sorry..i think a move is a good idea. safety first

lookeehere
Im sorry love
I hope your brother calms down and opologises to you.
I do think moving is a good idea, you cant put your self in harms way, especially when you have had abuse in your past, your brother may be following in the same abuse pattern and i feel you could be in danger.
maybe a studio apartment or a one bedroom apartment that is near amenities you need like hospital, shops your doctor ect, you should not not have to live in fear,it is not safe for you to do.
Or do you have any other family you could move in with?, if not i,d start looking in classifieds once you,ve been through your finances to see what you can afford.
I am so sorry to hear about oscor, i fully understand, i know how much you love your cats and know they are like our children.
I pray for you the best senario for oscar and will be thinking of you.
With Love And Big Supportive Hugs To You My Freind. xxxxxxxxx

DogCrazy
I dont know if there is such a thing as Restriction orders where you live but over herein the uk if we can prove we are being botered in some ways we can put in for a retriction order. It means that if the person causing the bother comes wit in 3 yards of ou you can have that person arested.. You may have to move but have you spoken to your boss at your new job about what is going on? He ma be able to help come up with a solusion that would mean you can still work for him.Over here we have what they call anger management groups or counseling .where folk can go to learn how & get help to control teir temper. Maybe some one who can get throug to your brother should talk with him & sput it to him as asolusion.. You could get word to him saying you dont want to see him again unless or untill he gets some thing done about his temper. But that he only sees you once he is in control of it better. There are some ideas I have just put to you. I dont want to make it more dificult for you to deside b firing tem out at you but it is in the end up to you. Its what you feel is comfortable ect. I do hopwe I have helped. If there is not restriction orders avalible or anger management places maybe there are some thing that does the same things.I am so sorry to hear about your cat. I do understand what your going throught Please believe me. It is verry understandable you feeling that ou cant be on ere for a few days.. Please do take care Real care. Your in my thoughts & prayers as well as is your cat. Lots of love & hugs from me to you. ..Graham

orbiefangraham
I'm so sorry about Oscar. Please take care of yourself. I know you like to take care of others, but you have to watch out for yourself. I'll be thinking of you.

missoctober
iam sorry about your cat! my prayers are with you! as far as your brother, i think you should just stay away from him, you don't need that!

lopeznewmexico
So sorry to hear about Oscar. I'm hoping it is nothing serious. I'm one of those people who knows that pets are part of our family. As for your brother, that's a tough one. Sorry that is happening too. To be honest, I'd avoid contact as much as possible, and if necessary to have contact, I'd keep it superficial. No one has the right to abuse you in any way. Best wishes to you hun. XXX :O)

nadareal3
I am really sorry to hear about Oscar. It is heartbreaking when we have to lose one of our family, which animals are. My guy is 16 and slowing down, there will be a time when I have to make the same choice. Just know that what you are doing is out of love, it's only fair that he not be in pain. Hugs Faith

bebu
I'm sorry to hear about Oscar as well. I'm sure he was a good little kitty-boy for you.

As far as your brother is concerned, I think you should get out of there. The choice is ultimately yours, but that's not a healthy atmosphere to be in. It can only drag you down.

SilentStorm
{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}} I really hope Oscar will be ok but if the worst must happen, just be there for him. I was able to sit w my Charmin (Golden Retreiver) for bout 45 min. We all said our good byes & i laid on the floor w her while the dr gave her the shot. She went to sleep in my arms.
Keep ur guard up w bro.

Love ya hun
Cathy

girlie4721
((((((((Linda)))))))) i am so sorry to hear about oscar, and i will say a prayer right now for the both of you. my dogs are my babies, so i know how you must feel. please keep us posted. i also hope things get better between you and your bro, and if not, that you will be able to move on and be happy.
~~HUGS~~
donna

mamasgrl
oh,linda-i am so sorry about oscar! (((linda))) that is always such a hard decision to make-but just ask yourself"what does oscar want me to do?" you have to do what is best for him. as for your borther-do what ya gotta do to keep yourself safe! trish

shockme
Hi Hun :(, I also think moving is a good idea, with your situation and thepeople involved I would state "be careful". sorry to hear about Oscar, I had my kitty die a wile back, damn need devistated me *huggles*. you do have a job now tho and if you can you might look into programs up there that might help in your rent or something(housing assistance, food stamps, etc) let me know what turns out for this plz,

MEH

MEH07
Hi Linda I am so pleased you have had all of the above messages - you are obviously a popular person in these parts as you deserve to be.

I am so sorry to hear about Oscar and your incident with your brother. I hope the diagnosis is the more unlikely one but you must prepare yourself for the worst which I know is easier said than done.

You seemed to be doing good over the last few weeks with your new job and party etc so moving too far may not be a good idea but you cannot live with your borther if you feel unsafe or if it upsets you/knocks you back.

Love the new photo by the way - you look great in it!!!

Speak soon

ajdmouse
Sorry to hear about Oscar. I think he should be released from suffering. XX Your brother is creating a hostile, poisonous environment. Escaping makes good sense. XX Love your new photo. Your hair looks nice that way.

OldManBear
I am putting you and Oscar in my prayers. I know how hard it is to hear such traumatic news about one of your babies.
You brother needs an attitude adjustment(my way involves a 2 x 4). I hope you can find a good place if you decide to move.
You're in my thoughts and prayers. Love and hugs, Ramona

Rayeann
I am sorry dear, I will pray for your kitty, I love cats as you already know , and they are our children. Tell bro to chill, it is u who is going through a hard time and he should give you support.

HILLY
You do not deserve all of the stress that you are dealing with. Praying for an Oscar miracle, for your brother to stop his nonsense, and for you to find peace. If you need to move, I hope you find a place quickly, and that it is somewhere that you feel safe and secure. Please, if you can, let us know how you are doing. Wishing you nothing but the best xxx

sadsheri
I am so sorry about your kitty. I hope it is just a false alarm.

memyI
so sorry oscar is poorly hun. fingers crossed he gets better. if you can then move, you cant live in fear. hugsx

wistfl
I am so sorry, I know how hard that is to make such a decision, I am sorry your brother was so awful to you, I sure hope you are able to move out, things would get better then. How awful for him to yell at you at such a difficult time

insomniatonite
i am praying that oscar will be ok... take care of yourself linda.. you are to good of a person to ever be abused by anyone.... let us know about oscar as soon as you know something... xxxxxx

blondelexus
Take care and I hope your brother settles down since you live together and hope Oscar is O.K.

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