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Friday, May 9, 2008

I AM A LOVER AND NOT A FIGHTER. I FIND IT EXTREMELY HARD TO GET MAD OR FRUSTRATED WITH ANYONE FOR A VERY LONG-TIME IF AT ALL. I AM MORE OF MAKING OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY, RATHER THAN WORRY ABOUT MY OWN HAPPINESS. I GUESS THAT IS GOING TO HAVE TO CHANGE. IT WILL BE INTERESTING TO SEE IF I CAN DO THIS. ANY SUGGESTIONS.

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I am alot like you. A people pleaser I say. Build up your confidence. Read positive things. Become educated and when you feel like your getting screwed talk it out or snap and people will listen cuz they not use to you knowning what you want. Good Luck! Hugggggggggssssss!

majesticblu
I'm the same way. I would tell you to ignore and think of yourself only but I tried it and it doesn't work it just made me hurt more because others, especially the ex, don't care about your feelings. I'm just being myself and if others are rude so be it! I can't figure out how someone could toss another away but I won't and can't do it. My advice - be yourself!

RiS
You are indeed worth this goal of not pleasing others at your own expnese of happiness.....at least that's how i see it...you just need to build up you self-confidence in order to truly have the resolve to do this....once you work at achieving your own happiness and finding your own self-worth, you will reap rewards you never thought possible....and I'll say it again...you are worth it....

Sage1
hell i dont know..grin..i think if anyone as a parent we gave up that right as soon as the kid was born...lol...no matter how old they are..and my oldest is 23..rofl...now it just comes as second nature to please someone else first after being a parent for so long..grin..so i offer no suggestions..grin..sorry hon..your on your own there..grin...but if get any good ones...pass them along will you....grin..

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heather1
I guess I'm a people pleaser as well. I hate conflict. I have fought for myself and for rights, but the older I get, the less worth it it seems to go 'into battle' so to speak. I'm really not afraid, but have opened my mouth once too often in the past and seem to have rubbed people the wrong way or given a wrong impression of myself. I don't know...it gets hard to know what to do...what is the best for me in the long run...to advocate for myself or just do the best I can and hope that it doesn't harm me. If this doesn't make much sense it's because I really don't know what to do so much of the time now. Having multiple diseases doesn't help. I feel that people just 'tolerate' me as it is and am afraid of people (like bosses) getting angry with me and deciding that I'm just 'not worth it'. Wow, I had no idea I was going to write that, and I don't think I had even verbalized the thought, but I realize now that that is exactly how I feel. Kind of sad, huh? Thanks for your entry--you helped me make sort of a 'break-through' regarding my feelings lately about work. Oh, yeah, this was your journal, not mine! Oops! Thanks, nevertheless!

Eloise