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Me and my egg donor are both on BCPs and officially starting this whole crazy …
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what a week...RE office called and they are trying to get me not to use my donor. she has a relative with an enlarged heart and one with alcoholism on her medical profile.at least she was honest.I still want to use her. I am not trying to breed an aryian nation of perfect humans. I would rather have a child with a "good" heart than one that is medically perfect.One of the finest men i ever knew was a member of AA the last 18 yrs of his life, he was a wonderful volunteer for the veterans and a great man.some of the anynomous donors I wonder if they are being honest on thier profiles.next...I stopped BCP on monday and still haven't started (neither has my donor) AND the DH ex found out she is haveing a boy and is nameing him the same boy name we wanted, Dillon Matthew.when it rains it pours...anyone have an extra umbrella?
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I am so glad that things seem to be going good and you have a positive attitude about everything and like you said at least she was honest it really mkes you wonder how many people arent so forth coming with medical history it seems like things are going in the right direction. I know all about the name thing but try not to worry you will pick out a different name and it will be better then the last! God~Bless!
Savannah05
My mother has been sober for 22 years, so I don't think that should stop you. It runs in my family on both sides and there was a lot of potential for me to go that way too, but I found other tools and ways of dealing with what drives a lot of alcoholics to drink in the first place. In fact, I would say most people have an alcoholic in their family some where or a friend who does. I firmly believe if you raise your child the best you can and give them all they need then that is the best you can do.
Most people have someone in their family with a heart issue or some other kind of medical issue. Be it cancer, diabetis, lung disease, etc. There are a lot of heart issues in my family, me included. I don't wish my parents didn't have me because of it though. I take care of myself and that is the best I can do.
So in my opinion, you are not making a mistake for moving forward with it. I am glad she was honest so you do have an accurate medical history for the child I KNOW you will have. But not having children because of the "what ifs" is just not worth living (to me).
I am praying for you all the time and sending lots of sticky baby vibes your way. This woman seems like an angel the way she happened in your life. It would almost seem wrong to walk away from a gift like this.
You know, we pray to God for things and though he/she does not always give them to us the way we would think or like, or come up to us in person and hand us that gift, he/she can have other people do it for him/her. I feel that is the case with your donor.
Lioness816
I agree with you, I think you should use who you want and you are right you just want a baby that is healthy, not perfect!!! :) My fingers are soo crossed for you!!!!
honeyb11277
Mary, that damn DH's ex!!!! I want to strangle her and I don't even know her!!!
Sorry this has been such a tough week. I am going ahead with the donor too! Very excited about that-but we can chat about that later.
Anyway, as I have been looking through profiles, I have come to the same conclusion, I don't want a perfect baby and I think some of these girls are either fibbing or in the dark b/c no one's health history is blemish free, right?
When you sign on to be a parent you take the good with the bad. If you and DH conceived w/o a donor and something went awry genetically you'd take that in stride and be happy for your child, I assume. So, doing it w/ a donor you assume the same risk. Except you are going into it with your eyes open b/c this donor was truthful. After all you've been through and the way this donor came into your life, I believe it was divine intervention. I think if you still believe she is the donor for you then you should go for it. I think God sent her to you for a reason! "To thine own self be true!" Do what you think is right, it's your life after all, not the RE's! Thinking of you!!
auntieweewee
What a roller coaster life can be. Go with your heart, not somebody else's opinion. My heart and prayers are with you!
RenaissanceWoman