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I went and reopened my claim on 10/29/07. My service rep was very cooperative. I sent off for …
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It's been a long couple of days and I have a feeling the worse is not over yet. I made it through the week-end and yes my H is still in the house. He has moved to the living room. His counselor advised him to leave, we needed a seperation but we all know the first place he would run, so that's not an option I'm willing to live with. If he needs a break then I'm willing to leave for a few days. He's not leaving me to face the kids with his screw up. I won't fix this one.
I saw a lawyer on Mon. and it's not good for me. I basicly walk out with less then I came in with after 23 years. Because of his crativity I can not claim some very large assests he optained during our marriage. I get to claim the debt that inccured to get the asessts. I know not fair. So for now I have to stay and wait. If he wants out then I'm hoping he will honnor at least the promise he made to me and our kids when this whole mess started 8 months ago, no laywers and we just split everything and walk away.
I saw my doctor and my counselor and both agreed I need to start on Lexapro and take some time off work to pull myself together. So I'm off work this week and next if I need it.
My H is going to see his counselor today. I have know idea how that will go. She thinks I'm a control freak and everything I have done is to punish him for his original affair. I don't think she is qualified to treat him. But he says he will not change counselors then he will be letting me control him.
I just don't unnderstand how my H could lie to my face everyday for 8 months. How he could watch the tourture I was going through but run to his truck and call his girlfriend 5-6 times a day. He called her on our anniversary, on my birthday, or our family vacations, after we had sex. He told her evreything that went on in our home. What kind of a women is she?? She knew what our family was going through and she kept it up with him to. It just feels like I'm watching some movie play out. This can't be real.
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Hey girl, my heart aches for you. Not fair that we are left with the mess. I'm staying put for now. Having a hard time with me not being able to get half of whats in the savings since we were married 23 years. I sure am responsible for half of his debt. Crazy huh! Responsible for the panties, food other clothing perfume he bought them. No WAY!!! Can't understand it. It drives me crazy just thinking of it. Do whatever gets you trough the day. I won't tell you that you are strong. I don't concider myself strong only a shell of my former self. i have no clue what strong is. Take care of yourself. Try not to dwell on all of the BS, it can drive you crazy, I should know. Document everything. Thinking about you. If you need me I am here for you. If you wnat to talk I can give you my cell number. I also have a my space. we can always chat here on DS. My prayers go out to you. It pains me so much to see someone else going through the same thing. try and have a good week. Do something for you everyday. Love M
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I called the OW pretty much every morning and late night. Not all the calls were warm and fuzzy. She wanted me to leave my wife and be with her. But my wife sees the phone bills and imagines that it was all love, all the time. My OW also knew the pain she was causing (or helping to cause), but she didn't care. And I was so wrapped up in the affair, it's like it had a life of its own. And I felt like I was in a movie, too. It was odd. My OW had a lot of "issues," so she needed a lot of emotional support from me. That's another reason we talked so much. I felt like such a rescuer, yet I was doing the opposite of rescuing for my wife. I really felt like I was in a movie, and someone other than me was writing the script and the action.
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