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want to ttc

Posted on 06/16/08, 08:57 pm

I recenlty had a missed miscarriage on May 21st followed by a D and C on May 23rd. I was almost 9 weeks pregnant. I want so badyly to be pregnant again. I would like to try to start to concieve after my first AF which should be arriving shortly. I feel in my heart that I am ready. When I told a friend of mine about my miscarriage...I mentioned that a common woman we know must be very strong to have 2 miscarriages and try again right away. At the time I said that I was not so sure that I wanted another baby after that pain. My friend then went on to say that this woman we know must not have bonded to he "fetus". I don't believe that for a minute. I bonded to my baby and will never forget him/her. He/she will always be my second child. But I really want to try again. I am not replacing my baby, I just want to bring another baby into my family. How do I explain this to people?

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Reply #1 06/18/08 11:22am

kokomokers

Try as you may, you can never explain it to people who haven't been where we have. I also had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks (the baby measured only 8.5 weeks) followed by two D&Cs on 5/9 and 5/16, my first AF came and went and now I'm actively TTC again. It's not that we're trying to "replace" our babies, but we were pregnant because we wanted children and having a miscarriage did not change that!! Nobody can say when it's the right time to start TTC again, only you can know that for sure. If you're ready, go for it!! Don't let the rest of the world tell you what to do. Good luck, and I wish you lots of baby dust!! *hugs*
Reply #2 06/19/08 10:05pm

rmae990

Thanks for the response. I really am finding that no one understands the pain of a miscarriage unless they have gone through it. Not even my DH. Hope that you guys have some success and wishing baby dust to all!
Reply #3 06/27/08 4:01pm

connersmommy

You can try to explain this to people until you are blue in the face. The fact is, they just don't get it unless they have been there.
Reply #4 06/27/08 4:42pm

Devry

I agree with those before. I didn't tell anyone I was trying afterwards and as much as you think you want their support and advice etc...it really is just as enjoyable to experience it on your own. I am 20 weeks and still have not told bil and sil or aunts and uncles and friends because I am enjoying it so much more without them always trying to give comments etc. I think I would do it this way every time. You know what is best for you, let's leave it at that. Good Luck ttc!
Reply #5 06/27/08 9:29pm

rmae990

Thanks for the support. My AF came extactly 4 weeks after my D and C. I am now on CD 7 and before my mc I ovulated on CD 15. Not sure what to expect now. I am soooooo nervous about trying again. I think no matter how long I wait it will be nerve racking. Baby dust to all!