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WHEN DOES THE PAIN STOP

Posted on 06/07/08, 09:13 pm

ON THE 6TH WAS MY HUSBAND TEX'S BIRTHDAY AND REALLY GOING DOWN HILL RIGHT KNOW AND CAN'T SEEM TO CLIMB BACK OUT AND JUST TO THE POINT THAT I DON'T CARE WHAT HAPPENS TO ME ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. I AM HAVING A REALLY ROUGH TIME BUT PROMISED SEVERAL PEOPLE THAT I WOULDN'T HURT MYSELF. I JUST WANT THE PAIN TO GO AWAY AND FOREVER.

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Reply #1 06/07/08 9:50pm

Crazywolf5

I am so sorry that you are going through a rough time right now.I know how you feel.My Stan's birthday was in April and the anniversary of his death was June 1st.It is a very difficult time. I am thankful for the memories that he left me and they bring me comfort when I am feeling sad.
Reply #2 06/08/08 3:22am

Sandie203

I can only imagine what you are going through, I have some tough months coming up. Our anniversary, birthdays etc.. let alone the one year mark.. Hang in there, I wish I could tell you something to help, maybe spending time with others will take your mind off of things a bit..
Reply #3 06/09/08 10:39am

Cadence08

I don't think the pain will EVERY go away, it's just how we learn to cope with it. I know the pain overshadows everything, but I have told myself that I know that Dad would not want me to be sad and upset. He lived life to it's fullest and I know he expects that same of us. I know that doesn't help the grief and the pain, but if my time were to come I'd want my love ones to continue on, be strong and try to enjoy what time they had left.
Reply #4 06/21/08 10:23pm

bdsurov

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Reply #5 06/22/08 4:53pm

bdsurov

I JUST CAN'T LET THE PAIN GO OF LOSING MY LOVING HUSBAND AND GRANDSON AND SEVERAL OTHERS IN MY LIFE. WHY CAN'T I SEEM TO JUST LET GO ALL THE HURT AND ANGER INSIDE ME. PLEASE IF ANYONE HAS ANY SUGGESTIONS PLEASE LET ME KNOW.
Reply #6 06/22/08 6:23pm

dianal722

i know how u are feeling but try to be strong for him and those that are around you and love and care for u. Tex would want u to be strong and remember all the good time u had. The pain will never fully go away but remebering how much he loved and cared for u will help ease it
Reply #7 06/23/08 2:43pm

Gayle052

I understand completely how you feel, my husband passes away April 24th. and I find myself sinking deeper and deeper and I too can't seem to get past this. The pain is unbearable and I just don't know what to do.
Reply #8 06/23/08 9:44pm

bdsurov

I do find myself starting to talk to him about how I feel when I am alone and told him about how angry I am because he left me all alone. I do understand that he didn't want to leave me the way he did but it still hurts alot.
Reply #9 06/24/08 7:39am

vantron

I have been struggling against wanting to join those i'm grieving. I feel/believe they don't hurt anymore and seems like I hurt more and more. its hard because my 13 year old son is handling losing his father better than I am. Maybe I'm feeling his grief for him. Like you I just remember promises i've made to not give in to the dark night. Its times like this I pray for the willingness to be willing to let God carry me. I just try to slow down my self destruction at least if I'm not in a place to really LIVE. I figure this will pass...like a kidney stone. Thank you for letting a newcomer like me know I'm not alone!
Reply #10 07/02/08 11:51am

loismv

I lost my husband on May 10. The pain was so bad. I joined a support group for bereaved individuals and just being able to express my pain, fears and being able to talk about everything from what happened to memories of the past to fears about the future helped more than I could have imagined. I know that life will be worth living again but the only way to deal with grief is to go through it. Our anniversay is coming up and I haven't decided what to do but I will do something to honor his memory. I know that my Lord is always there for me and many times I just have to ask him for help.