mkeresi

Suddenly by myself

Posted on 05/20/08, 12:18 pm

I lost my 53 year old husband suddenly 2 weeks ago. My brain feels disconnected and I feel like I am in slow motion in a fog. He was my everything, we did everything together. The pain is so intense. I know I have to go on but it is so hard. The silence in the house is so loud!

• Reply #1 05/20/08  3:23pm
  
  Crazywolf5
  I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is.My boyfriend passed away on June 1st,2007.I have been devastated ever since. I miss him so much.Like you he was my everything and we were always together.The anniversary of his death is coming up soon and it still feels like it happened yesterday.My friends and family have been a big support to me and finding Daily Strength was a god send. Everyone has been wonderful to me here and I've made some new friends. I have not gotten completely back to normal yet, but I'm working on it. If you ever need to talk I am a good listener.
• Reply #2 05/20/08  4:50pm
  
  bdsurov
  I just want to tell you that I can agree with you about how you are feeling. I also felt like that when my husband and gransdson passed away within 2 months of each other. Their are times still when I don't want to go on but I am just taking one day at a time. Remember it has only been a couple of weeks friend and if you ever need some one to talk to please email me. My name is Betty and the founder of this site.
  Hugs
• Reply #3 05/20/08  4:58pm
  
  bdsurov
  Hello again and just wanted to let you know that the one thing that helped me was starting to write a journal. It has really helped me also and have continued to write for two years. My councilor had suggested it and I didn't start writng about anything until June 6th the first visit with my councilor and the next vist I gave everything from Jan. 24th, 2006 the day my husband passed away at home. Please hang in their my friend because you will start to heal.
• Reply #4 05/21/08  1:09pm
  
  lo1gu1
  I lost my 49year old girlfriend last October, we were together for over 5 yrs. We also did everything together.I had a melt down over yhe weekend
  and some days are worst than others but I don,t beleive God would allow this to happen if I couldn,t endure it. I know there will be better days ahead of me if I hold on. I also now live alone and your right the silence is the one element that always gets me down. My head immediately begins to think about her laying next to sleep or us talking or her reading a book and my heart hurts seemingly to end.
  
  I don,t think the pain of her passing will ever go away, i have to learn how to live with and still try to move foward with my life at some point. BE ENCOURAGED YOU CAN COME THROUGH THIS !!!!!!!!!
• Reply #5 05/22/08  1:00am
  
  tom2687
  My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I lost my older brother August 1st, 2007 suddenly to a stroke then my youngest brother to brain cancer October 10, 2007. My older brother lived with me and took pretty much care of me. I'm somewhat disabled and now have had to learn how to do things for myself. The hardest is preparing meals. I usually eat a sandwich daily. The silence in the house is deafening. When I hear the old house creaking I think I hear him walking around and call out to him. I have a sister who lives 20 miles away and she comes 3 times a week. A brother who lives 40 miles away and comes twice a month. I try to stay busy and keep the TV's on to produce noise in the house when I'm up. My counselor says it will get better with time, my question is do I have the trust? God Bless you and Keep You. Thomas
• Reply #6 06/11/08  11:06am
  
  loismv
  I lost my husband of 35 years on May 10. I know I have to go on because I have children and one grandchild but I feel the same way. I never imaginged life without him. I miss not having him to share things with. I feel alone and am having panic attacks when I leave the house. It was a month yesterday but it seems like forever. I is very difficult right now because there are ads everywhere for fathers day. I just have to believe that God will help me through this.
• Reply #7 06/11/08  11:20am
  
  lo1gu1
  he can and he will help you get through this, i feel your pain because
  i,m also suddenly alone after losing my girlfriend in which whom i was
  very close to. We did almost everthing together, after she passed i wanted
  to leave the city because everything reminded me of her and i was screaming inside.I Felt like knowbody understood how i felt from one day to the next. I was iches away from moving to FL. but i changed my mind.
  YOU CAN MAKE IT THROUGH THESE TOUGH DAYS !
• Reply #8 06/11/08  4:55pm
  
  loismv
  I don't just scream on the inside. When I am alone at home or in my car I scream out loud. I think it helps.
• Reply #9 06/13/08  9:43pm
  
  bdsurov
  I understand what you all are going through and know how it is especially the holidays,birthdays. If you feel comfortable enough go and visi your loved ones grave and bring a card with a message and leave it their because for me I have felt better with myself by leaving a card.
• Reply #10 06/14/08  9:05am
  
  Paulsdoll
  I also lost my husband 52, 3 weeks ago. It was so sudden, I am still in shock. I've been busying myself with going through his clothes, trying to sort things out, trying to find a way to sell my Blazer and high end musical equipment. I think I'm at that point where people forget and go on with their lives and I am still reeling and in need of such comfort.It isn't coming from anywere. My Mother stopped talking to me after Paul's death because I wouldn't let her call him derogatory names, and she said I was too selfishly wrapped up in myself for talking about the Ovarian and Lung cancer I had, my severe anemia now and worst my husbands sudden death. I feel so abandoned

It is about the ups and downs you are going through while dealing with a loved ones death