dolphin67

it,s my fault

Posted on 07/12/08, 02:06 am

it is my fault i was repeadely molested as a child i could of told my aunt who was in the room across the hall from me and my uncle but i didn,t now i gotta live with it betty

• Reply #1 07/18/08  6:33pm
  
  kayla4
  I do understand because I could have told my mother or my grandparents but I didn't. I have been telling my self that I did nothing wrong my brother did. I was a child and behave as a child. No its not your fault, its time that you start to forgivie yourself for something you didn't cause
• Reply #2 08/02/08  9:40pm
  
  eklord
  You were a child, you are not to blame. Please do not put all the blame on you. The blame goes to the abuser because of what he did to you. That is where the guilt goes, but not on you.
• Reply #3 08/16/08  10:11am
  
  pjann
  I know what it's like to blame yourself. I blame myself for what was done to me as well. Some good friends of the family had two sons my age that were adopted, the oldest decided to re-enact the things that happened before he came to a good home.
  
  Yes I could have told my parents, or his for that matter, but I was a kid there were many things that I thought that made me not tell anyone (I still haven't told them). Some of my reasons where thinking I'd get in trouble, being scared of what he'd do, loosing friends, and on and on.
  
  It is NOT your fault. But you're the one who has to tell yourself this.
  
  Some reasons it's not your fault:
  You were a child and no child (or adult) deserves things like that
  You din't say anything because you were scared
  He's the one who commited the crime, therefore it is his fault
  
  Make a list of things you would tell someone to make them know that abuse was not their fault; make it for someone in the same situation as you. Then read it every morning.
  
  Take care.
• Reply #4 08/28/08  11:27am
  
  TLCDaisy
  You are not to blame. You were a child, your abuser took advantage of you.
  
  Your abuser is the one that holds all the shame, blame and guilt. Not you. So transfer all that to him.
  
  I don't know why it took me until I was 16 y/o to confront about the SA, but it did, and I don't understand why it took so long, but I did confront, and I am not to blame. My abuser is the guilty one, the shameful one, the guilty one...he's the one that screwed up my life. I was innocent.
  
  No, now you can tell the truth...Break the Silence. Tell your Aunt and Uncle and anyone else you want to now! You are a Survivor!

Supporters of victims of sexual abuse need to know that they are not alone. There are others who can answer your questions,as they have been through the same type of situations.