I am so sorry Nada that happened to you.
You were violated and threatened.Your were sexually abused/raped.
And your right you lost alot that night.Did you ever tell anyone?
It wasnt your fault nada.Was this the only time that it happened?
You lost your childhood,in my opinion.I am glad that you had the courage to talk about it nada.I know how difficult that is........hugs my friend
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Life Lessons (possible triggering)
Posted on 06/30/08, 04:15 am
Sometimes events occur in our life that we later discover were pivotal events in our life. I had such an event in my life when I was in the ninth grade. That would make me 12 or 13 at the time. A schoolmate invited me to spend the night at his parents house. We were friends, so what the heck. I accepted the offer. When I arrived, his parents were home. We all had a nice dinner. By and by, it was bed time. I soon discovered that the only bed available to me was his bed. It was an uncomfortable situation, but I just went with it. The alternative was to walk home (about five miles) late at night. I was awakened in the middle of the night by my "friend" sucking on my penis. It was not welcome sexual involvement. He threatened to bite my penis off if I resisted. And so went the night. I never told anyone about being sexually assaulted for many years. I lost something that night that changed my life forever, and not in a good way. I lost innocense, I lost trust, and I lost something deep in me that I cannot even identify to this day.
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Reply #1 07/02/08 1:55am
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Reply #2 07/02/08 2:51pm
Jannis, I didn't tell anyone about it until adult hood, and then only a couple of trusted friends. It only happened once, but had a huge impact on my life. I never told my parents, to this day. My dad is now passed away, my mother is still alive. I grew up in a family in which children were to be seen, not heard. So I couldn't tell my parents about the assault. I just "stuffed it." -
Reply #3 07/02/08 9:27pm
I am sorry that happened to you nada.
I am glad you could finaly talk about it and I had a feeling that something bad like that had happened to you when you when you were struggling in the past with sadness and anger.I just felt that you had been deeply wounded as a child.THe more fierce the anger and sadness,the deeper the wound and pain from within.big hugs and support for you my friend.you took a courageous step and told your truth about what happened to you........ -
Reply #4 07/05/08 6:52am
Sorry this happened Nadareal but I admire your courage to post it. Of course it had a huge impact on your life. You were a young boy who was the victim of sexual molestation. I am sad for that innocent young boy. Hugs. xxx
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