Man, I donâ??t know what I would do this week away from the kids. I moved to a new state a while back and have only made one friend and they are pretty busy. Last time I did something for myself (away from the home) I saw a movie alone. It was ok. My husband has been working till 7-7:30pm everyday and till 6pm (or later) on Saturday. It has been so hard to carve out time for myself lately esp since I have no family around to help with the kids. My husband does help me and he will watch the kids on Sunday sometimes while I do what I want to. We usually have a date night every 2 weeks but, we havenâ??t in the past â?¦uhâ?¦geezâ?¦ itâ??s been months. Our babysitter has found boys (and she has a job now) and now she is busy all the time.
What I have been doing recently is when I pick up my daughter from schoolâ?¦while she is doing her homework I put the little one down for a nap (she sleeps for 2-3 hours). During that time I try to do something for me at homeâ?¦take a bath, paint my toes, and so on (depends on homework though). It is all I can do for now but, it gets me through the day. It is hard sometimes because my life wasnâ??t always like this. In my previous marriage I had so many friends, went out every weekend with my friends, during the week I had a lot of adult stuff to do, I was on stage every weekend; I had a life (not that I donâ??t like my life nowâ?¦it is just soooo different). The only thing that was missing was a good relationship with my husband. Long story short: I got married when I was 19 after 5 months of datingâ?¦not the best choice I made (didnâ??t pick the best guy either). When I divorced I realized my â??friendsâ?? were my friends because of who I was not because of me. Anywho, I am a stay at home mom now and YES sometimes I feel like changing my name and running for the hills but maybe I would keep my hair. :)
Discussion Topic
make a date with yourself
Posted on 09/20/08, 07:32 am
Whats your plan?
Carve out a little space where you are not a mom, not a wife, not a maid, not a driver, not a personal shopper, not a financial wizard, not a laundry sorter, not a dishwasher, not a chef... where you are just YOU... the dynamic powerful woman who is too often set aside, shoved in the corner, and forgotten under the weight of life.
Dust her off, make a date with her. At least 10-15 minutes EVERY DAY, and then another solid hour or two EVERY WEEK!
How are you going to spend it?
Remember, no one can be everything to anyone. Its not your job and its not a reasonable expectation. If you don't make time to nourish your soul, you won't have as much to offer those precious peeps in your life for the other 1425 minutes of the day. I think 15 minutes for you, compared to 1425 that are left over is more than extending yourself to their needs. The key is, to make those 15 minutes count.
For me, the 15 minutes isn't such a challenge but those 2 hours a week out of the house.... thats huge for me... I am not going to be ashamed to admit that I NEED to get out of the house without children in tow on a regular basis.
Today I'm spending those 15 minutes waxing my legs. Tonight, I'm going to a catered party. Thats my time to be in the adult world, meet some people who live in my town.
What will you do this week, for you?
Carve out a little space where you are not a mom, not a wife, not a maid, not a driver, not a personal shopper, not a financial wizard, not a laundry sorter, not a dishwasher, not a chef... where you are just YOU... the dynamic powerful woman who is too often set aside, shoved in the corner, and forgotten under the weight of life.
Dust her off, make a date with her. At least 10-15 minutes EVERY DAY, and then another solid hour or two EVERY WEEK!
How are you going to spend it?
Remember, no one can be everything to anyone. Its not your job and its not a reasonable expectation. If you don't make time to nourish your soul, you won't have as much to offer those precious peeps in your life for the other 1425 minutes of the day. I think 15 minutes for you, compared to 1425 that are left over is more than extending yourself to their needs. The key is, to make those 15 minutes count.
For me, the 15 minutes isn't such a challenge but those 2 hours a week out of the house.... thats huge for me... I am not going to be ashamed to admit that I NEED to get out of the house without children in tow on a regular basis.
Today I'm spending those 15 minutes waxing my legs. Tonight, I'm going to a catered party. Thats my time to be in the adult world, meet some people who live in my town.
What will you do this week, for you?
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Reply #1 09/20/08 9:30am
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Reply #2 09/20/08 9:32am
I hope you all can read what i wrote I cut and pasted it from word...dang.
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Reply #3 09/22/08 10:31am
wax legs in my book not a date! lol
for me I walk, play a video game, bath, work on my costume, take photos, write, read,watch a chick movie or just sit for quiet time when the kids are naping.
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