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Why was it easier in school?
Posted on 10/04/08, 03:56 am
In High school I was a social butterfly. College brought about a little more inhibition and fear, but I was still able to go to parties, date, and make good friends. Now that I have been out of school for a while, I can't seem to make new friends. I don't do social things, really anymore. I panic when I enter loud, crowded bars. I know that some of this is related to the onset of my chronic pain, but I seem to have lost so much confidence. I haven't dated in a over a year, and I'm afraid I have become so afraid of social situations that I may never have a meaningful relationship again (I know, realistically that won't happen, but I still fear it). I hate feeling so lonely. Any advice?
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Reply #1 10/05/08 11:58am
well.. you are making everything worse then what it really is.. when you read between the lines ... you know how to be social and talk and have a conversation with someone.. your just scared now because you haven't done it in a long time.. you just need to find a club or a hobby that involves other people... and you will meet people with similar interests and you can have conversations about that... you can do it... just think positive and keep your head held high :) xoxox Amy -
Reply #2 10/15/08 4:37pm
i do the exact same thing! i was social and popular in high school and after i wasnt surrounded by people all the time was when i became socially anxious. its like if im not in a social setting a lot then i forget how to interact with other people. i now have a hard time making friends and even going to the grocery store. try pushing yourself to go out more with friends that you trust. you should be confident because you are a beautiful person! if you want to talk more just send me a message! you are not alone! -
Reply #3 10/23/08 11:33am
so the key there is that doing it more often helps... once you master something you move on right... just like anything you learn.. this is the same thing... so keeping yourself social will help in the long run with your anxiety.. it feels weird but it works.. its called exposure... I took an anxiety group course thing..
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