Discussion Topic
trying to get a job whith s.a.d.
Posted on 06/20/08, 12:27 am
i have recently become unemployed after 10 yrs at same job. now i am 47 yrs old and i have to start all over. anyone else out there whith this problum. i have turned in only 3 applications and by the time i get there im in bad shape. it takes me forever just to get out of the car. i know this is going to keep me from getting a decent job. im so scared. anyone else haveing any problums like this? if so, i would love some pointers thank you
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Reply #1 06/28/08 9:17am
the faster I go throught the motions and the calmer I act. the more I can accomplish. That said. -
Reply #2 07/04/08 3:19pm
well I would try to recognize your negative thoughts. You have to analyze those thoughts and reason with them. If they are unreasonable then you know that you are making yourself more nervous then you need be. What are the chances they are thinking this? if they are thinking this way about me do I really care? Does their opinion change the way I think of myself? and when you do this, your thoughts will change and you could feel more confident going into the situation. worth a try :) -
Reply #3 07/04/08 3:37pm
thamks for your reply on the disscusion i started. i know in my mind that the feelings are unfounded, though wene im in the sicuation, its a different story. i finnaly am in a clinic and im going to be able to see a counseler finnally. im realy going to try to improve my self worth, or i should say self asteem. i am a good person, i do know that.i just have to feel it i guess. was gone for 2 days so havnt been on here. thanks for the support. you hit the nail right on the head whith that one. thanks. be well. -
Reply #4 07/08/08 3:54pm
You are a great person and don't forget it! Do something selfless like help out a stranger or a family member that always gives me a quick boost :) we all need them no need to feel self fish for feeling good about yourself I know its hard I have dealt with it too :) -
Reply #5 07/09/08 6:43am
I'm unemployed at the moment, i'm 33 and have never really had a job thaat meant anything to me. I've recently come back from 10 months travelling and just find it hard to be motivated. I want to change direction in some way but i'm not yet sure in what way? All i would say to you is after 10 years in the same job your going to find it tought, just hang in there, i'm sure your get there. -
Reply #6 07/09/08 12:08pm
I am also unemployed at the moment having taken a 2 year work break and am generally pretty worried about the future. However, I recently discovered Dr Richards' audio series. It is brilliant! Easy to follow and it seems to have started to work for me. Check it out - http://www.socialanxietyinstitute....
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Reply #7 09/17/08 7:52pm
thanks for everyone who replyed. i do feel better, not so alone. seeing counseler next week for the first time in my life. scared but maybe a little hopefull.. thanks again. very helpfull -
Reply #8 09/17/08 8:14pm
im trying to find a job too -
Reply #9 09/17/08 8:57pm
Hi ~ I'm your age and have to start all over again as well. I've been out of work for about one and a half years due to illness. I will have to get back out there and seek employment soon enough. People have told me, the more you do it the easier it becomes. Even going on interviews for jobs that you're not that interested in just to practice. Counseling will help - I'm doing counseling too, and working on that issue. It is really hard for people like us - I agree. But, with a little work on our self-esteem, we can do it. Thinking positive helps! I was really down after losing my job due to my illness. But then I thought - you know, there is always something better out there. And, change can be a good thing. Best wishes! -
Reply #10 09/30/08 8:47pm
thanks for all your replies. i have given up the job hunt for now. it was juat too hard on me mentally. i cnat take much moore rejection. i now get food stamps and i applied for dissabillity. my son is working a few moore hours finnally. im in counseling now also and im trying to work on myself. i dont think ill be able to work or get hired untill i get rid of some of these issues. im pretty much homebound lately, which realy scares me. ive got a great family, and i live in an apt were you pay by your income, thank god. so im going to try to get myself in order then take it from there. ive never been out of work this long, ive gained so much weight, etc... but thank you to everyone who answered this disscussion. sorry i didnt get back to ya. my son has the only computer, so i only get on every once n awhile. thanks again to everyone and good luck i realy appreciate it. this site is very helpfull...
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