Kristeen

Codependent No More

Posted on 09/04/08, 09:02 am

This is an exerpt from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie: "I don't know joy. I spent my life not even bothering to think about what I wanted and needed, where I wanted to go, and what I wanted to do. Life was to be endured. I didn't think I deserved good things. I didn't think most good things were within my reach. I wasn't that interested in my life, except as an appendage to other people. I didn't think about living my life; I was too focused on others and their approval of me. I was too busy reacting instead of acting.

I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait 2 years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money you threw up in the air, however many times you banged your head against the wall. Things happen when the time is right - when we're ready, when God is ready, when the world is ready. Give up. Surrender."

This really helps me see why I can't seem to figure out what I want - to do, to be, to go. And also helps with my impatience. Just wanted to share with my DS friends - hugs!

• Reply #1 09/04/08  4:36pm
  
  NoOneLeft
  Waiting = patience. I love, love, love Melody Beattie.
• Reply #2 09/10/08  2:17pm
  
  shutikka
  thanks for sharing that i think we all want everything to happen right now..but big things can take big time :O)
• Reply #3 09/11/08  8:13pm
  
  stargaze
  I like it. It puts our worries into perspective. a little. :)
• Reply #4 09/12/08  12:42pm
  
  Nicrose
  I absolutely love her!
• Reply #5 09/29/08  10:45am
  
  newstart01
  Loved it. Helps to look at things from a big picture perspective. Thank you.
• Reply #6 10/03/08  7:26am
  
  hope39
  Thank you for posting this section from Melody Beattie. Patience and waiting are often not my strong suits but are so important to learning to live a more peaceful, happier life.
• Reply #7 10/13/08  11:07pm
  
  BPDramaQueen
  thanks for that post--it made some sense to me
  
  patty

This forum will help all who wish to recover and gain some tools to be able to cope and deal with the issues stemming from our emotional problems that are hurting our relationships on a day to day basis...The relationship with ourselves as well as others...The solution is here for the taking..