Exerpt from Eat, Pray Love (The book)

I read this chapter from this book and about fell on the floor..Listen to what this says about soulmates....



The next mornings mediitation is a disaster. Desperate i begged my mind to step aside and please find God, But my mind stares at me with steely power and says, " I will never let you pass me by." The whole next day in fact, i am so hateful and angry that i fear for the the life of anyone that crosses my path. I snap at this poor german woman because she doesnt speak english that well and she cant understand when i tell her where the bookstore is. I am so ashamed of my rage that i go hide in(yet another) bathroom and cry, And then i am so mad at myself for crying as i remember my gurus counsel not to fall apart all the time otherwise it becomes a habit..... But what does she know about it? She is enlightened. She cant help me. She doesnt understand me.I dont want anyone to talk to me. I cant tolerate anyones face right now. I even managed to dodge Richard from Texas for awhile, but he eventually finds me at dinner and sits down- Brave man- I my black smoke of self loathing. "Whats got you all wadded up", He drawls, Toothpick in mouth as usual" Dont ask" I said, But then i start talking and tell him every bit of it, Concluding with," and worst of all i cant stop obssessing over David. I thought i was over him, But its all coming up again." He says " Give it another 6 months , youll feel better." "Ive already givin it 12 months, richard." "Then give it 6 more. Just keep throwing 6 months a it until it goes away. Stuff like that takes time." I exhale hotly through my nose, bull like. "Groceries," Richard says, "Listen to me. Some day your gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. Youll see you are in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing and you were in the best possible place in the world for it- in a beautiful place of worship, surrounded by grace. Take this time, every minute of it. Let things work themselves out in india." " But i really loved him." "Big deal. So you fell in love with someone. Dont you see what happened? This guy touched a place in your heart deeper then you thought you were capable of reaching, I mean you got zapped, kiddo. But that love you felt, thats just the beginning. You just got a taste of love. Thats just limited little rinky dink mortal love. Wait till you see how mcuh more deeply you can love than that.. Heck, Groceries- you have the capacity to some day love the whole world. Its your destiny. Dont laugh." "Im not laughing." I was actually crying." And please dont laugh at me now, and i think the reason it is so hard for me to get over this guy is because i seriously believed david was my soulmate." " He probably was. Your problem is you dont understand what that word means. People think a soulmate is your perfect fit, and thats what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person that shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so that you can change your life. A true soulmate is probably the most important person you will ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soulmate forever? nah. To painful. Soulmates, they come into our life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just cant let this one go. Its over, Groceries. Davids purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate nd out of control that you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and then BEAT IT. That was his job, and he did it great, but now its over. Problem is, you cant accept that this relationship had a real short shelf life. Your like a dog at the dump, baby- your just licking at an empty tin can,trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if your not careful, that can will get stuck on your snout forever and make your life misrable. So drop it." "But i love him." "So love him." "But i miss him." "So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think of him, and then drop it. Your just afraid to let go the last bits of david because then youll really be alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen if she is really alone. But here is what you have to understand, Groceries. If you clear out all the space in your mind that your using right now to obssess about this guy, youll have a vacuum there, an open spot- a doorway.And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in- God will rush in- and fill you with more love than you have ever dreamed. So stop using david to block that door. Let it go." "But i wish me and david could-" He cuts me off. " See, Now thats your problem. Your wishing to much baby. You got to stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone outta be." This line gives me the first laugh of the day. Then i ask Richard, " so how long will it be before all this greiving passes?" "You want an exact date?" "yes." "Something you can circle on your calender?" "Yes." "Lemme tell you something, groceries---You've got some serious control issues." My rage at this statement comsumes me like a fire. Control issues? Me? I actually consider slapping Richard for this insult. And then, from right down inside the intensity of my offended outrage comes the truth. Teh immediate, obvious, laughable truth. He's totally right. The fire passes out of me, as fast as it came. "Your totally right," i say. "I know I am right, baby. Listen, your a pwoerful woman and your use to getting what you want out of life, and you didn;t get what you wanted in your lst few relationships and its got you all jammed up. You husband didn't behave the way you wanted him to and David didn;t either. Life didn';t go your way for once. And nothing pisses off a control freak more than life not going her way." "Don't call me a control freak, please." "you have got control issues, groceries. Come on. Nobody ever told you this before?" (Well...yeah. but the thing about divorcing someone is you kind of stop listening to all the mean stuff they say about you after a while.) So i buck up an admit it. "Ok, I think your probably right. Maybe I do have a problem with control. It's just weird that you noticed. Cause i don;t think it's that obvious on the surface. I mean---I bet most people can;t see my control issues when they first look at me." Richard from Texas laughs so hard he almost loses his toothpick. "They can't? Honey---Ray Charles could see your control issue!" "Ok, I think I am done with this conversation now, Thank you." "You gotta learn ho to let go, Groceries. Otherwise your going to make yourself sick. Never gonna have a good night sleep again. You'll just toss and turn forever, beating on yourself for being such a fiasco in life. What's wrong with me? How come I screw up all my relationships? Why am I such a failure? Lemme guess---that's probably what you were up all hours doing to yourself again last night." "Alright, Richard, that's enough," I say. "I don't want you walking around inside my head anymore." "Such the door, then," says my big Texas Yogi.