just finished reading a lovely little book. The secrets of Abundant Love by Adam J. Jackson. Thought i would share this with you all.

THE POWER OF THOUGHT
Love begins with our thoughts.
We become what we think about.Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves.
If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires.
Thinking about your ideal partner will help you to recogise her/him when you meet them.

THE POWER OF RESPECT
You cannot love anything or anyone unless you first respect them.
The first person you need to respect is yourself.
To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself,"what do i respact about myself?"
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself,"what do i respect about them"

THE POWER OF GIVING
If you want to recieve love all you have to do is give it! The more you give the more you will recieve.
To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally.
Practice random acts of kindness.
Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give you, but rather what you will be able to give them.
The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not consist of gazing into each others eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction.
To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like.
Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow.
If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

THE POWER OF TOUCH
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships.
Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
Touch can help heal the body and warm the heart.
When you open your arms you open your heart.

THE POWER OF LETTING GO
If you love something let it free, If it comes back to you it is yours, if it dosent it never was.
Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space.
If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgiveand let go of past hurts and grievances.
Love means letting go of our fears, predudices, egos and conditions.
" Today i let go of my fears, the past has no power over me-todat is the beginning of a new life!"

THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION
When we learn to communicate open and honestly, life changes.
To love someone is communicate with them.
Let the people that you love know that you love them and appreciate them.
Never be afraid to say those three magic words : 'I Love You'
Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.
Always leave someone you love with a loving word- it could be the last time you see them.
If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and .....why are you waiting?

THE POWER OF COMMITMENT
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love.
If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships.
When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

THE POWER OF PASSION
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive.
Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement.
Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate.
spontaneity and surprise produce passion.
The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is live each day with passion.

THE POWER OF TRUST
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and suffocated.
You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely.
Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end.
One of the ways you can tell if a person is right for you is to ask youself, "do i trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is 'no', think carefully before making a commitment.