MtianExplorer

Concerning strong and intimidating personalities...

Posted on 06/09/08, 08:15 am

I am including the following overhere, because I believe it may also be connected in certain ways with the subjects we are attempting to explore within this group:

Retrieving from what i wrote in one of my notebooks on Wednesday 4th June 2008:



My attention is presently drawn towards the image of a strong and intimidating personality which creates fear and anxiety in others. You fear to approach such a strong personality. The sight of such a personality from a distance creates a fear in you that makes you want to avoid meeting such a person, especially if you have been given a task to accomplish by such a one and feel expected to update that one on the task you have been given. The sight of him can frighten you in such instances. His presence can create a feeling of guilt within you when you know you haven't completed the task you feel he expects from you. You feel his presence to be imposing upon you. But you ask yourself whether he is at fault for having the personality that he has. His talks in certain companies in which you also find yourself, makes you feel somewhat uneasy. There is some sort of tension in the atmosphere which makes you think of electricity in the air. You feel somehow that his personality suppresses your's. But is he aware of that feeling created in you by his presence? Does his presence make you aware of your own inferiority complex perhaps?



You feel that his influence is not a heart-warming one, but rather one that is projected onto you by his strong and imposing personality. Such a personality make you feel in need of being on your guard somewhat. But in all this, you wonder whether any problem concerning this, is not with you rather. How is he at fault being the way he is? Why do you feel indebted towards him in certain ways? This seems to be a somewhat subtle subject...

• Reply #1 06/25/08  1:14pm
  
  BobbiDee
  I've been told I have a strong personality...but in reality I'm a wuss.
  Not sure what you are asking. Are you taking into account the fact that the strongest person seemingly is often the weakest, masking their weakness?
• Reply #2 07/03/08  1:42pm
  
  MtianExplorer
  i thought of sharing that i had someone in my mind when reflecting about this subject of strong and intimidating personalities... but i thought it proper to write to that person i had in mind to convey to him my thoughts... i thought of sharing overhere some extracts of the exchange of msgs i had with him... hoping it can possibly further help us in our aims and objectives within this group...
  
  i wrote: "... We've had a few e-mail exchanges previously, but I presently have a specific aim and thought in mind while conveying this message to you... I had previously mentioned about wanting to research about religious delusions, psychosis, spiritual experiences within times of illness etc. In that context, I had begun expressing my interest about this proposed research within a health group with various types of message board facilities etc, via the internet. But my present specific reason for writing this present message to you, is because I have recently written something having you in mind while writing it, without mentioning any reference to you in that piece of writing.
  
  In any case, the situation concerning our beliefs and ideologies has presently become quite complicated... I thought it proper to convey that above-mentioned message to you, to avoid further discussing about it elsewhere, without your being informed about it first.
  
  But there is one point I wish to mention in this context before sharing with you this message, because it had been something I had been wanting to get reconciled with you for quite some time...
  
  ... please allow me to convey to you my thoughts and what I had recently written, hoping that it may be taken in the best spirit, and positivised..."
  
  etc... etc...
  
  Here's some of what he responded to me: "... In fact I cannot understand why you are saying this to me now. From what I understand may be I could have helped you. But despite your broadmindedness you do not seem to think that I may help you.
  
  I think that by now you should have understood in your life that our perception determines our behavior to a large extent. Our perception comes from our internal makeup, namely our values, experiences, our relationship with our parents etc. Very rare is a man who can liberate himself so that he might see how his outlook is determined. For example much of what you write and your beliefs are the result of the way you have been brought up and you have lived. A person becomes ill at ease when he is faced with the possibility that his convictions may be busted. The fact is that what we know is an impediment to what we may know. Anyhow this is a very long discussion and I do not wish nor have the time to dilate upon it right now.
  
  
  
  Look if I have been guilty of creating that â??fearâ?? in you, I am really sorry. According to you I have a forceful personality but I personally think that I am very weak and powerless. Had you hinted to me that you had such feelings I would have gladly accepted to have a conversation about the subject. To put it briefly, I am sorry if knowingly or inadvertently I have harmed you. I offer you my unconditional apology..."
  
  etc... etc...
  
  just thought that this could possibly help us further perhaps in our discussions overhere... in any case... peace and blessings... afzal...
• Reply #3 07/28/08  4:31pm
  
  Shelly4
  There are many reasons and ways someone can be intimidating and that "one" finds someone intimidating does not mean "another" does. If we are talking a very "stong", "forward", "overbearing" personality, that trait most likely is a product of their genetics and environement growing up. This trait exists in my family and is amplified by dysphoric hypo mania making that person extremely intimidating through fear. Some people can be intimidating because they are very intelligent and learned or talented. This intimidation is usually our interpretation based on a product of our own emotional weakness or insecurities. This is only an example of two reasons for intimidation. I have overcome being intimidating by most anyone else once I built a solid self esteem. However, I struggle with intimidation through reasons of my first example. I was raised by a very overbearing, boistrous and angry father. I was extremely intimidated and fearful of him. I have two brothers very much like him and MOST times when I spend time with them, I feel intimidation and fear because of their judgemental personality. I have worked hard to overcome this however, when I am around them the "old tapes" begin playing and fear sets in. I never know what to expect from them and feel inadequate when with them. I hope this helps in some way to clarify. Afzal, it sounds like he is truly unaware of his ability to intimidate and it is most likely just his personality that intimidates you because of something it triggers from your past. It warrants looking into for you to understand. Hugs
• Reply #4 09/09/08  1:10am
  
  stevo
  You are going to be shocked and surprised if you allow yourselves to explore life. There's no law that demands your thoughts to be formed and contained as in a bell jar, just because you were raised by your parents or a parochial school to be someone that "they'd" recognize. There is something very weak in characters that cannot listen to people that you meet and realize that there are so many people who do not think or believe as you do. Or adventure in being alive is to communicate and stretch our imaginations, to see what other people see. If that's intimidating, I raise my hands up in the air, and walk away.

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