tweedsie

Are you 100% Vested in your marriage?

Posted on 07/21/08, 04:18 pm

I'm wondering now that you have chosen to move on with your marriage do you feel you are 100% vested in making it work? Or do you think you have something in the back of your mind holding you back from being totally vested?

• Reply #1 07/21/08  4:37pm
  
  special3
  Well, I believe I'm 100% invested in making it work. That would be a good question for me to ask my H. I wonder how he feels? I have to ask...be back!
• Reply #2 07/21/08  5:04pm
  
  special3
  I'm back,I wanted to ask my H if he felt I was 100% vested in our marriage. His answer,"Yes,the one thing he really appreciated was the fact I never threatened him. But,(while he understands)he gets frustrated with the trust issue. humm, maybe that is holding me back some??
  Good question!
  
• Reply #3 07/21/08  5:05pm
  
  Cricket08
  Definition of Vested: Having an unquestionable right to the possession of property or a privilege.
  
  nope not 100%
• Reply #4 07/21/08  5:29pm
  
  CCOlson
  100%. Happy, trust him, and very much in love. This took years to accomplish.
• Reply #5 07/21/08  6:16pm
  
  naive1966
  I have been 50/50 vested for quite some time. Today I am probably 75% Pretty darn good for me. :)
• Reply #6 07/21/08  6:53pm
  
  ibex
  I'm all in. That doesn't mean to say that I don't sometimes say and do the wrong thing, that I don't despair over the damage, or that it is not a rough road, but I'm giving it all I've got. I guess that is as close to 100% as I can get.
• Reply #7 07/21/08  7:01pm
  
  tweedsie
  I don't think that is holding you back special because you aren't just accepting you have trust issues you are committed to working through them.
  
  To me saving my marriage is an all or nothing deal at this point...given the severity of the situation I feel it's really important to be 100% or we don't have much of a chance...we are both committed to making it work which to me is helping rebuild the trust.
• Reply #8 07/21/08  7:47pm
  
  special3
  Oh Tweedsie, that is GOOD and you are so RIGHT!
• Reply #9 07/22/08  12:43am
  
  tweedsiesman
  I am 100% vested in the marriage. I understand that there is a long, windy road ahead with lots of hills and valleys. I am in this for life (whether Tweedsie likes it or not - lol) but it definately takes two to make it work. It will take alot of communication, forgiveness, and eventually trust.
• Reply #10 07/22/08  12:47am
  
  tweedsie
  I like it tweedsiesman :)

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