Wendy ~ So glad you came here and posted ... it shows you are truly addressing these issues. Motivation can be difficult and it's one thing we try to help with the most. You are correct, the weight is a symptom of the depression ... I learned the same thing in my journey.
One can't feel motivated all the time, but you can learn ways to deal with it and to boost your moral. Here's a video I hope you'll find useful ... http://www.thestrangestsecretmovie...
Next, read positive affirmations and positive quotes ... there are some posted here in the group, on the blog and many that can be found on the Internet by searching for "positive quotes".
Keep your DS friends and this group around you ... they can uplift you in your darkest moments ... we've all been there and we care.
Falling, stumbling, getting lost are all part of our journey to success. We learn a lesson each time we do so. As long as we keep getting up and never give up, we will get there.
Rest assured your teammates will have other thoughts to share on this issue ... they are wonderful and most intelligent ... and have huge hearts.
Gentle hugss ... Ranae
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I got a bit lost
Posted on 07/23/08, 02:40 pm
I haven't posted on here for weeks, or contacted any friends. I get very depressed sometimes, not because of my weight, which is more a symptom than a cause of my problems, but I did let things slip a lot. Completely went off my diet, ate whatever I felt like eating (mostly anything bad for me). And now I'm starting to feel a bit more human again I'm so mad with myself for getting into that state, I always say never again but it doesn't quite work. How do other people keep up motivation when everything else is so bad?
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Reply #1 07/23/08 2:56pm
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Reply #2 07/23/08 3:36pm
Wendy~ I lean on my friends on DS for support when I am feeling low. I know whenever I come here, there will be at least one person who will have something to say that will hit home with me. That's what we're ALL here for-support. There are many people here including myself who are always willing to listen and respond to whatever issue you may have at the time. We've all been there. We've all fallen, but YOU got back up and that is what's important.
The biggest piece of advice I can give is one that I learned a long time ago. When you are going through a situation, DO NOT ISOLATE! That is the worst thing you can do. Reach out to people who have been where you are. ALLOW them to help you. Believe me, there is no shame in asking for help. No shame at all. I'm here if you ever need to talk. We're all here for you. -
Reply #3 07/23/08 5:56pm
Thanks so much to you both. I've got so many things I'm trying to sort out in my head. There are a couple of groups on here where I tend to 'lurk' because I'm afraid to label myself by posting there. The weight loss is the easy one, the stuff that indirectly lead to me being overweight is what I'm finding hard right now. I so want to sort myself out and find a better life, thanks for your support, it means a lot. -
Reply #4 07/24/08 10:06am
hey sweetie,
first, dont be mad at yourself. its part of our human nature, and part of our experince on this journey. you have identified a problem and asked for help! that is a huge step!
as for me, when i start feeling like that, and i just dont want to give a crap anymore, i get a hold of a friend and just babble. or i get out my pictures and look at how far i have come (down 78 pounds). it renews my strength and reminds me what i am doing!
i know when those feelings start tickling the corners of your heart and mind that it is so easy to suck inside yourself and say screw it. but i would really encourage you to make yourself reach out. i know its hard and scary but the more you do it the more easier it will be. i know because this is something i have had to teach myself.
you will be ok, and it will get easier once you start activly sorting out everything thats going on in your head!
well i hope you have a good day! =D i am here if you need to talk.
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Reply #5 07/24/08 2:07pm
Wendy-- The same thing happens to me me!! I get really depressed. I am not sure if I eat because I am depressed or I get depressed because I eat!! I think they both go hand in hand. I have been having a pretty rough time myself with eating all the bad foods and really beating myself up about it!! I recently went to the doc(something I have been putting off) My cholesterol is up and all my labs are out of wack!! Well That was a wake up call for me. Even though it has only been 4 days of eating well--I FEEL GREAT!!!! DOn't do this for anyone but you and you will succeed!! Also, you need to be a little selfish in order to take care of you:) I am hear for you as well. I am alwys willing to talk--it really helps loads!! Good luck with everything:) Jackie -
Reply #6 07/24/08 5:08pm
Wendy...thank you for sharing...we all go through this. It's not easy being motivated all of the time. I often check in here before doing my exercise first thing in the morning just to get myself ready for the day...you know? There are so many people here that have lifted me up when my spirits are down...I just cannot tell you how much it helps when you are depressed to reach out for help at that time. It means a lot. I also agree with Ladybleu. Try not to isolate yourself. This is something that I work on really hard myself. I have been hurt a lot and sometimes it seems easier just to stay by myself because I won't hurt me right? Wrong...I can hurt me worse than anyone else with negative self-talk and that sort of thing. I just try really hard to look for that silver lining and reach for all that God is trying to offer me. Including my DS friends...Love You All! -
Reply #7 07/24/08 5:12pm
As a matter of fact...I'm going through a bit of depression myself right now. I am working really hard to try to forgive something really awful...not for them, but for me. I have a friend here in town who I know means really well...I know she does...but when she got wind of the fact that I had trouble forgiving...she decided it was her personal project to MAKE me do so. She went so far as to bring a Catholic priest to my door this morning to show me the error of my ways. I am not Catholic...I have no problems with Catholicism at all...but I'm not. I didn't want to disrespect either of them...but honestly, I don't need the additional pressure. I am working through this on my own at my own pace. When they left, I cried for quite a while because I thought that by turning them away that I had dissappointed God maybe. It made me feel really sad. But I have decided that as long as I work hard to continue to try...there is no dissappointment in that...not for God and not for me. I can't say I feel 100% better...I'm still hurt that she wouldn't ask me before taking this step. But I'm working on it. When I am depressed...I do the opposite...I just won't eat at all. And that does me no good. So...that being said...I'm gonna work on a yogurt or something to feed this body and soul. Know that you are not alone. : ) -
Reply #8 07/24/08 7:51pm
Thanks so much for the support, people on here are so nice, I don't feel I deserve it. I get depressed over the state my life is in which all stems from things that happened years ago. I want to change my life, I can't carry on the way I am now but trying to change throws up so much painful stuff. Some days I wish I could just give up rather than have to deal with it all. -
Reply #9 07/24/08 8:22pm
I so hear you Wendy....these kinds of long-standing issues are exactly why I am working on forgiveness. If you would like to sign on to be my friend, I would be more than happy to share with you in this regard. I want to change my life too...and sometimes that's really darned hard! But Wendy...remember this....WE can do it! We can! -
Reply #10 07/30/08 3:21pm
What heart-wrenching and heartfelt posts! All of you are not only supporting each other but being brutally and bare-boned honest! It is this type of work and self-discovery ... and stick-to-it attitudes that allow for our growth and our development. This is what leads to change and our success.
You have inspired me as well. All of us, me included, experience times where we feel depressed. The key is to do exactly what you are doing. To not associate that depression with food ... do not eat too much or do not eat too little ... both are not healthy. Deal with your depression like you are ... with introspection as to what you can change, the wisdom to accept the things you can, the courage to realize int he face of hurt that people are acting because they care, talking with each other and making these connections and ...
most importantly ... forgive yourself and keep on moving along this journey!!! TOGETHER WE CAN DO THIS!!!
Thank you for this thread ... it has truly touched my heart!
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