Discussion Topic
I want to leave...so bad
Posted on 07/19/08, 12:11 am
How do I get out when I don't have the money to go...I don't have anyone who has stepped up and said ...come stay with me (even if only until I can find a way to get on my feet) Am in so much pain living like this..it truly is hell..This on top of having endometriosis is just way to much pain..prays don't seem to be answered...I have prayed so hard and so long my knees are sore...What do I do? How do I do ...there has to be a way and I can't figure it out. The pain is unbearable...
Any and all ideas are appreciated!
Any and all ideas are appreciated!
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Reply #1 07/19/08 12:25am
ah my dear - sending you so many hugs and as much support as I can. Have you talked to a women's shelter to see if you can get on track with their social workers etc...? And do you go to the hospital for the endometriosis - that is horrible pain! If you do - plz let them help with the pain and let them know you need help. Let them get their social workers and case managers on it. Be vocal if you can with the organizations that do have the resources to help - many frustrating times it doesn't get better the first time - plz don't give up. I think too that there is a domestic abuse survivors hotline - Ruby has the number to that - have you had a chance to call them. I'm afraid I'm not much help but I do care and wish I could give you a big hug and take you away from it all. If you ever want to chat I'm here. Hugs -
Reply #2 07/19/08 12:25am
ah my dear - sending you so many hugs and as much support as I can. Have you talked to a women's shelter to see if you can get on track with their social workers etc...? And do you go to the hospital for the endometriosis - that is horrible pain! If you do - plz let them help with the pain and let them know you need help. Let them get their social workers and case managers on it. Be vocal if you can with the organizations that do have the resources to help - many frustrating times it doesn't get better the first time - plz don't give up. I think too that there is a domestic abuse survivors hotline - Ruby has the number to that - have you had a chance to call them. I'm afraid I'm not much help but I do care and wish I could give you a big hug and take you away from it all. If you ever want to chat I'm here. Hugs -
Reply #3 07/19/08 12:30am
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -
Reply #4 07/19/08 12:45am
I am wondering, like Sarica, if you have contacted a local DV shelter. It might be your ticket out. I know you are having a tough time, but we are here for you. Try and get to see a doctor. Maybe they can give you some painkillers to help you cope. Prayers are with you. -
Reply #5 07/19/08 12:45am
Sarica is totally right, womens shelter is what I went through and honey you dont need nothing. Just the clothes on your back is fine. I went in with nothing... just the clothes on my back and there is so much hope, you will be taken care of and they help going through the fear... facing fear is a challenge my dear, and strength it sounds like you have. Good luck my dear -
Reply #6 07/19/08 1:39am
Granny, I'm so sorry that you're in so much pain both physically and emotionally. No one has stepped up, but have you asked? If you haven't please do so, I lost a friend from domestic violence, and would have opened up my home in a heartbeat. -
Reply #7 07/19/08 5:01am
Granny I 2nd the domestic violence organizations if there is 1 in your area, the hotine could tell you i imagine. We have 1 locally. It's a safe house where they put you up free as long as u need with classes and help to get on your own. They can help get an order of protection served on your abuser, assign court advocates to go and be with you if you need to go to cort and it's all free. A friend of mine also got out of her abusive situation by going to her local er and telling them she didn't feel safe in her home. That's all it took for them to hide her and get her help. Our er routinely asks that question as does the hospital on the general - non-emergency basis - admittance of every patient. "Do you feel safe in your home?". -
Reply #8 07/19/08 9:51am
I'm sorry you are going threw all this, none of us should have to go threw this pain, try your best to communicate with others as much as you can, sometimes in desperate need I would call a hotline just to talk, you can find these on the net. and they are free, some organizations like "women against abuse" have free counseling and other resources, try journaling and stay on this site, things will get better, keep on trying and don't give up. Hugs and love from Lytad. -
Reply #9 07/19/08 2:56pm
Dear Granny, The DV Places are the places to begin with,I know it's sounds hard or maybe it's not for you, it's not that bad, believe me when you learn what dv stands for it is you it is all of us and thay can help you make a courageous and safe decision. As to your pain with endometriosis, I too suffered as a teen, and into my thirty's along with PID, I know the pain can unbelievable. My heart goes out to you. I had a treatment years ago where they severed/ striated the ligaments to the my uterus that transmit the pain, since then no more severe pain at all. I don't know if it something you can talk to your dr about. but it's been over 10 years for me. sorry I don't have a name for it. I also had scar tissue and rigth side ovary and tube removed, 7 years ago. It all but saved me. I still conceived another beauthiful baby girl 5 years ago. (unexpected) But she is my angel.
I hope you find your strength and can find a way to ask for help through the the dv system, a lot of times people , at least in my situation didn't want to get involved, or help because it was dv. There are so many other resources, just keep up the good work.... hugs -
Reply #10 07/19/08 2:58pm
hello dear you can also find safe houses thru cps or other hotlines/crisis centers. make your calls they will fine a safe haven clothes, and even a job they will build your self esteem. sometimes our mates make us feel isolated. don't go there. of course i'm sure you have been already.use your fingers to phone now. or have a friend call.go girl .love m
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