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Posted on 03/19/08, 02:49 am
Let's say you and a friend had feelings for each other 20 years ago (me and Lily), and that this ghost from your past came back to haunt you. How would you go about rekindling the friendship? Right now, the two of us are emailing and playing online chess. She wants me to be Rudolph Valentino!!! I've let on that online chatting may be a better way to get to know each other, and that she would see first hand what a great guy I am. I'm not sure she's open to getting to know the real me as I am today. I think she's stuck on the image she has of me 20 years ago, but I certainly wasn't some Valentino! I spoke sweet nothings in her ear in French a few times, that's all. Sigh!
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Reply #1 03/20/08 11:16am
Oh Oli, she has to get to know the "Todays' You"! Wouldn't it be more heartbreaking if she expected the "Old You" and wasn't prepared for the "Today You", and you (and Lily as well) wound up with another broken heart? -
Reply #2 03/24/08 8:17pm
I'm happy to say that Lily and I are getting to know each other via email. She's getting to know the real me, and I think she loves it. I've shown her a few of my videos on YouTube, and she really liked them. Right now we're taking it slow. We first need to become friends again before moving on to a more serious relationship. -
Reply #3 03/26/08 3:53pm
Hey bro... I don't really know how I would handle it, twenty years is a pretty long time....and people change and grow alot in that time too... I think that you are handling things really well right now.. and the REALL YOU today is the only one I know, and I'm quite fond of the real you today.. :0) definitely rebuild the friendship first.. the rest will follow in good time... xxx -
Reply #4 03/29/08 4:35pm
Thank you both for your comments. Lily and I have been emailing. I've had to get clarification on a few things, and had to set her straight on what I really want. So far so good, I think. Only time will tell if we'll be good friends, or even romantically involved. She is looking for a long-term relationship. -
Reply #5 05/11/08 12:14pm
Good luck with everything Oli. It sounds like you both really care for one another. Just be yourself and be true to yourself and you can't go wrong. Hugs x -
Reply #6 05/19/08 9:55pm
Yes, I really care about Lily. I think she really cares about me too. After our first few weeks of pure fantasy, we both escaped to our own corner. Letting Lily know she wasn't right for me made that happen. Now, we're both sending small emails to one another, and we still play chess. We have from the very start. My new goal is to be a very good DS friend to Lily. She deserves to find happiness and self love. You might have noticed that I don't talk about her anymore, except here today. That's because I want you to discover her for yourselves, for who she is, and not from what I say about her. Some of you are already her friend, and I truly appreciate it. Lily belongs in our DS family. -
Reply #7 05/29/08 11:45pm
I think DS is the perfect place for us to have met. Its the middle ground for us to get to know each other on a level of true substance. -
Reply #8 05/29/08 11:59pm
I agree. Without DS, I would not have been able to open up to you as much as I did from the start. There was a reason why I did so. As I get to know more about you, I'm also getting a lot closer to you. To know is to love. You now need to forgive yourself for your past, and live a life of peace from the demons within. I'd like to hear from you that your internal voice is one of self-love. I'm here to help you along that path. -
Reply #9 06/02/08 10:18pm
ditto.............and I know Bro, that you would have written the exact same thing to me......... so I'm going to pretend you did... and Lily... I'm with you all the way.................xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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