Discussion Topic
Relationships
Posted on 03/15/08, 02:35 pm
Relationships! Need I say more? lol - I'm sure we all have something to say about them.
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Reply #1 03/15/08 3:07pm
Each relationship is unique. There are general rules society expects us to follow within a relationship; however each individual sets up their own rules and boundaries regarding their own relationship with you. It's enough to make your head spin! -
Reply #2 03/15/08 3:32pm
Each society and culture is different and each has its own rules. Now my head is truly in the salad spinner! As a city folk French-raised man, I married an American brought up in hicksville USA. That in itself was difficult enough. The in-laws didn't like each other. My future ex didn't like anyone! We set up our own rules, and to the outside world, we looked like a great couple. -
Reply #3 03/15/08 3:56pm
I spent too many years trying to please my partners (2 long term) 17 years with my sons dad!! that I did'nt know who I was!! all my opinions were theirs, I lost my identity however i'm looking forward to my next relationship as I feel i'm ready to live side by side someone rather than under them.... -
Reply #4 03/15/08 4:14pm
As it should be. I've seen too many relationships where the man is domineering and the woman is submissive. I see it with my own folks! A relationship should be about caring and cherishing each other with respect for one another. -
Reply #5 03/15/08 10:10pm
and without effort!! -
Reply #6 03/17/08 11:51am
Yes relationships are a real challenge. Especial when you grew up witnessing negative relationships of constant fighting, male domination and disrespect between members. Going out there to try to form good relationships with others when you do not know how to or the rules is a difficult task. Especially when you are looking for prince charming to save you from life and find out that prince charming is just as afraid and needs as much saving as you do. In my case it took a lot of experiences and learning in order to start to form good relationships with others. -
Reply #7 03/17/08 3:55pm
*sings* R-E-S-P-E-C-T..........lol -
Reply #8 03/18/08 12:10am
There has to be integrity. That's at the top of my list. If you have that, you're honest, truthful, reliable, honorable, respectful, and everything else that I am! lol -
Reply #9 03/21/08 11:20pm
too many people think that relationships should come easy. Not enough realize it takes WORK daily to make the relationship strong! They don't want to work, compromise, or respect the other as an individual, so they don't last. Relationships take committment, honesty, respect, and love. That's my story anyway...I could be wrong. But I'm not! -
Reply #10 03/29/08 4:50pm
I think you're right, Terri. Relationships don't just come on a silver platter for you to put your beer and chips on while watching sports on TV. It takes work and dedication from both involved.
I also think that it's important the spell things out at the beginning. There's a period leading to the relationship that is just as important as the relationship itself, and both involved need to be clear on the direction they want to take.
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