The first bit of a relationship should always be near perfect, you are both trying to court each other and show your sunday bests.
If he comes tripping out of the gate, think of how much he will stumble threw the race.
Discussion Topic
hmmmm...not so sure about this one..lol
Posted on 07/08/08, 11:17 pm
So, I met this interesting guy on the weekend. I know things should go slow and blah, but I still find myself jumping too fast too soon and enjoying it...lmao
Anyway, he was nice and all. We decided to give it a try to date. So, I went to his home Sunday, and he came to mine Monday. He has a large empty house and he rents a couple rooms out, I have a small old apartment I rent.
Both are 2 yrs separated, but he has 4 kids part time (10, 16, 16, 20) and I have none. The impression I had coming to his home is that he can barely keep with the mortgage so he could not afford furniture, and it tok him a good while to tell me he rents a couple rooms out. The impression he had coming to my home is that I live in a place full of germs (he has a thing for germs..lmao), an older building, and an apartment that I like and I call home, not perfect, but cozy. We enjoyed seeing each other both days. Today I decided to make a surprise and email his email at work. No answer, so I hope I did not send it to the wrong person...lol. Anyway, I normally ask him to call, but today a friend told me that guys like getting calls too...lmao..so, I went out of my way to call the guy. I am not sure I liked his response. He was quick to tell me he could not see me today, had to work, did not seem to feel sorry about missing the chance to see me. He also was blaming me for germs...lmao...saying he has a sore throat and it may be from me because I was sick a while ago. So, i told him that I told him in advance, so he was at his own risk...lol. I told him to see if he can blame someone else...lol...the girl he kissed before me...lol..I have been longer not dating. Anyway, I think he thinks little of where I live and of me. Like I am less because I have less...lol. Guess what? I can fully afford where I live...lol.
Anyhow, I am not impressed. We shall see. I had a tough day at work. You know, shit never comes alone...lol. Will kep my chin up either way. Life is good, fun, and the weather here is always beautiful.
Anyway, he was nice and all. We decided to give it a try to date. So, I went to his home Sunday, and he came to mine Monday. He has a large empty house and he rents a couple rooms out, I have a small old apartment I rent.
Both are 2 yrs separated, but he has 4 kids part time (10, 16, 16, 20) and I have none. The impression I had coming to his home is that he can barely keep with the mortgage so he could not afford furniture, and it tok him a good while to tell me he rents a couple rooms out. The impression he had coming to my home is that I live in a place full of germs (he has a thing for germs..lmao), an older building, and an apartment that I like and I call home, not perfect, but cozy. We enjoyed seeing each other both days. Today I decided to make a surprise and email his email at work. No answer, so I hope I did not send it to the wrong person...lol. Anyway, I normally ask him to call, but today a friend told me that guys like getting calls too...lmao..so, I went out of my way to call the guy. I am not sure I liked his response. He was quick to tell me he could not see me today, had to work, did not seem to feel sorry about missing the chance to see me. He also was blaming me for germs...lmao...saying he has a sore throat and it may be from me because I was sick a while ago. So, i told him that I told him in advance, so he was at his own risk...lol. I told him to see if he can blame someone else...lol...the girl he kissed before me...lol..I have been longer not dating. Anyway, I think he thinks little of where I live and of me. Like I am less because I have less...lol. Guess what? I can fully afford where I live...lol.
Anyhow, I am not impressed. We shall see. I had a tough day at work. You know, shit never comes alone...lol. Will kep my chin up either way. Life is good, fun, and the weather here is always beautiful.
-
Reply #1 07/09/08 12:39am
-
Reply #2 07/09/08 8:18am
good point, I don't want to "convince" anyone to be with me, you know
yaikes, thinking that magnified is just scary...lmao
it would be nice to be with someone that does not take me forgranted second day...lol.
hug
S -
Reply #3 07/09/08 1:13pm
S - I dated a germophobe...it was disasterous. He would constantly complain about my cleanliness. I just got disgusted with that among other complaints....like Mopri said the courting should be the shining moments where you are both trying to impress.....if he's interested well then he is. -
Reply #4 07/11/08 8:49am
Guys..this is funny
So, I decide to let this have a natural death..lmao...I get a long email that goes like this...(the heading of the email: moving forward)...yeah, right
Since Monday, I have been thinking a lot about whether you are the
person I want to be with going forward. I think that even tough you're
really great, funny and lovable, I don't think you are the one with
whom I would be comfortable or happy on a daily basis. Again, perhaps
I am really looking for an introvert one. Those two days together have been memorable and the nights have truly been the best I've ever had. But I want to be honest with you and tell you my sentiment before we get to far into this. I am sorry if this is disappointing to you. I should not have "crossed the line" on Sunday afternoon. It is my fault.
Hope I can still count you as a friend nevertheless.
So, I answered>>>>
Hello, B
I think you are right.
Cheers.
S
Next day, guess who calls.....lmao
So, he wants to return my earings and I tell him I have not miss them this far so he could thow them away. He insisted in giving me them back, come by, drop off, blah. Basically, he would not let me go...lmao..anyway, so I said I was busy in another call, asked if I could call him back and didn't.
I will probably write an email back thanking for the thought, but not to worry about it.
Man, some people...lol!!!!
hug
S -
Reply #5 07/12/08 1:01pm
So, I wrote an email back thanking for the call and offering for return earrings...and blah...cheers, me...right?
So the guy sends me an email saying that now taht we realize we are not for each oher, that we could define how our friendship will work...lmao
Blah, blah, blah...I write 1 sentence back...lol.."call me when you feel like and I will take it from there". I hope that sounds like get lost and be gone, since I don't really return his calls...lmao
Guys, sorry, this friendship stuff is PATHETIC. Someone just hurt my feelings and want a free pass to do it again in a different for of relationship? THis is CRAZY. WEIRDOOOOOOOO! To me, it sounds really disrespectful. I would never break up with someone and ask for friendship next day, friendship just happens, no need for formal invitation, just making each other feel good and hang out sort of thing.
What do you think of friendship after date? -
Reply #6 07/12/08 3:18pm
The last guy I dated briefly said that once for me, we may not be together but we'll always be friends. I was like WTH is that? I've always wondered if that isn't what he wanted all along but it's his loss at this point because I've moved on, he hasn't because he keeps calling and trying to get in touch with me. Silence is golden in this case! -
Reply #7 07/12/08 6:54pm
I just don't like this guy Slac! Nope, I don't like him. I think you seem like a pretty nice person and I don't think this guy is friend-worthy. Good for you for venturing out a little and trying something new but you deserve nicer treatment and I think you should say "See ya!". -
Reply #8 07/12/08 9:36pm
Hi Slac,
This guy you dated sounds like he doesn't know how to behave socially. You're better off without him. He sounds way too serious and humorless.
-
Reply #9 07/13/08 8:35pm
True.....germs guys are boring...lmao
Hug
S -
Reply #10 07/14/08 9:02pm
Slac. Very entertaining. Enjoyed your dating story. Made me laugh. Sounds like you took care of things, though. Good for you.
Welcome
Join This Group
After divorce it's hard to jump back into the dating scene. This group will help support each other as we get back out there in the dating world.
